Trade tips and strategies with other caregivers at our online cancer support forum. From dealing with side effects to managing pain, you'll find a variety of information and resources online at CancerCompass.com. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/caregivers/tips/1,0,122,86.htm Mon, 20 May 2013 00:00:00 GMT Mon, 20 May 2013 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ Someone very close to me is dying..was told at the start of the year she has 5-10 years..then 2years then a month later 1year and now only has only a couple of months...her baby was just born when she found out..she has been so strong and fighting so hard...I want to ask her..if she needs help to write letters or a video to her kids...her baby will not know her mummy..so is a bad thing to ask..is it any of my busniess to ask..is it my place..how do I say it without hurting her..I feel so gulity that I spend a lot of time with her kids http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,65831,0.htm Need2help Thu, 26 Apr 2012 00:00:00 GMT I'm new to the forum and wondering. How many folks have a relative who’s recently fallen ill and now have multiple doctors and providers? Any one having a hard time keeping track of all the care going on? http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,70071,0.htm iwillsurvive9 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 00:00:00 GMT My husband has been diagnosed with lung cancer and kidney cancer. I don't know what kind yet. His lung biopsy is scheduled for next Thursday, and they're putting the kidney mass on hold for now. But he's very, very sick and has lost a lot of weight. I feel lost as a caregiver, and the medical community isn't giving me much help--isn't telling me what to expect or how to handle it. I understand now (after the fact) that high calcium levels, etc., cause constipation, and we needed to guard against complications from that. He ended up in the ER with fecal impaction. I'm trying to encourage him to drink lots of fluids, because his first hospitilization (when they found the tumor(s)) was because of dehydration. But with all that fluid intake, he doesn't seem to be able to eat, and he's rapidly losing weight. He sleeps a lot, and this afternoon he has a temp of 101.1. Of course, being Saturday afternoon, there are no medical resources available. Can anybody tell me what to expect, what is normal and what is not, and how I can keep him well enough for his biopsy next week?   http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,67242,0.htm Chrisla Sat, 21 Jul 2012 00:00:00 GMT had whipple surgery now throwing up all the time do not have cancer what can i do? http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,68222,0.htm samsteve Sat, 15 Sep 2012 00:00:00 GMT Hello, My name is Leah and I am helping organize a benefit for my mom Teresa who was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and has suffered a number of additional medical issues as a result. Teresa has been unable to work and as a result has made it difficult to afford medical costs and living expenses. Friends and family are hosting a benefit in her honor on December 8th that will include a silent auction. Please find an attached copy of the Benefit flyer. You will notice the benefit is located in Hudson. Teresa lives in Minneapolis but has friends and family in both the Twin Cities and Hudson so we are targeting both areas for donations since people from both areas will be present at the benefit. You can help us by providing funds in the form of a grant or by donating goods and services. Online contributions can be made by going to: https://sites.google.com/site/teresashope2012/ Sincerely, Teresa's Family Thank You, Leah Fristedt teresashope2012@yahoo.com 952.215.6485 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,69134,0.htm Teresashope Tue, 13 Nov 2012 00:00:00 GMT I realize that there are people on here who need way more attention, or support then me. But I would like just a little. He has only had cancer for a few months, he still has his hair, though he has lost some weight and still gets sick atleast once a day... I need advice, on how to keep my cool. He's always been one thats quick with an attitude. Snappy, complaining. And it's gotten so much worse already. He'll complain that I don't take the trash out fast enough, the dryer is too loud, our daughter is being too loud (She just turned 1). He tells me sometimes I'm not doing enough, or that I don't care, he wishes that he were dead already then be around me. And then, when he's in a better mood he is smiling and kissing my forehead. I don't know how to handle how quickly his moods change, and how to handle him saying he wishes I wasn't around. Because. There is noone else to take care of him. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,68885,0.htm Sarah.P. Sun, 28 Oct 2012 00:00:00 GMT I was wondering what are good things to help through his 30 day of chemo was thinking of a i pod to listen to music. Should it be music he likes that may remind him of his helathy days or will that be stressful. Or making more of relaxing music http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,68678,0.htm dsmarch777 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 00:00:00 GMT Hi My partner starts chemo next week. How scrupiously clean does the house have to be? I have heard varying responses. Sorry for my naivety, but will he most likely experience vomiting, diarehha etc etc. And be wearing gloves etc etc.  I have no idea what to expect so I can be FULLY prepared. I'm thinking he should be at his moms home, which is cleaner/ warmer than ours even?  thanks  Lisa http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,66924,0.htm lisajay Thu, 28 Jun 2012 00:00:00 GMT We have been told my sister's breast cancer has now reached the spinal fluid so she has cancer meningitis and approx 3-4 weeks to live. We know the time is short and already seeing signs of confusion and severe headaches.  Can anyone tell me the signs that tell you the end is very near? I have heard they stop eating, but what else? How long before they stop be able to really communicate rationally with us? How bad will the pain get? Hospice is being called in tomorrow . http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,58481,0.htm yaya4 Sun, 01 May 2011 00:00:00 GMT Hello everyone! I'm new to cancer compass and I have a few concerns about my mother. She was diagnosed with colon cancer about two years ago. She was told that it was in remission a couple of months later and now its back and the doctors told us there wasn't anything else that they could do. She has a nagging cough and swelling in the feet and seems as if her stomach is swollen as well. She believes in God and she is at peace with her current situation, but as her caregiver, I'm concerned and I don't know what else to do. Has anyone been in this situation and if so, please tell me what my family and I need to prepare for. Thanks. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,66173,0.htm anysuggestions Mon, 14 May 2012 00:00:00 GMT Can anyone tell me where they accept cases of unused glucerna and the feeding bags? I would hate to just throw it all out. I asked the visiting nurses who followed Phil's care and the infision company that brought it an they didn't know. Irene http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,57581,0.htm eastwest Fri, 15 Apr 2011 00:00:00 GMT If you or a family member have had internal cancer or leukemia within the last fifty years (even if family member is deceased)or if you get cancer, you may be eligible for a claim to received compensation. I know this through doing some research on my grandfather's lung cancer, and discovering that his cancer may have been caused by exposure to Uranium back in the 1950s in Nevada. This website (and its links) is very helpful and interesting. Check it out to see if you or a loved one is eligible for benefits:www.cancerbenefits.com http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,66755,0.htm jptanne Mon, 18 Jun 2012 00:00:00 GMT Hi there,I transferred an amateur forum to a new hosting service but I found out later that one of the administrators of this forum had been using a mail ring to contact the users.  The problem now is that the present server will not allow so many mails, just over 2000, to be sent at the same time, but only about 100 mails per hour. I would like to know if you have any idea how we can overcome this problem, maybe with a plugin phpbb or  some free user friendly programmes so that he can carry on communicating with his clients without the server crashing.  I suppose that something  can be done with the code but I really wanted to know if there already is  a solution for this kind of problem as this kind of forum is quite popular and considering the fact that the service provider is one of the most important I know. Thank you__________________http://www.ideasgift.info/christmas-gift.html - http://www.lahjoja.org/liikelahjat.html http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,66526,0.htm Callum Mon, 04 Jun 2012 00:00:00 GMT I need some directions because I don’t know where to turn and have no help.  My mother was diagnose with stomach cancer, but before the results came back from  her endoscopy test, the doctor told me  that there was a mass on her colon as well.  At that time the doctor asked me did I want them to send my mother through another test to see if the colon was cancerous I told them no, because my mother is 89 years old with a bad heart and it is just so much anesthesia she could go through.  But with all the symptoms I suspect it in her colon as well, but I am not a doctor.  I faxed three reports to  her primary doctor, to see what  our next steps were. He told me that the cancer is at an early stage, and  that a large, 4-5 cm diameter modular mass was not that big,  plus he said it’s on the lining of her stomach. Well how big is a stomach?  Then he has nerve to suggest if I wanted to have her stomach remove…. I couldn’t figure that statement out since he said it wasn’t  that bad,  yet wanted to have her go through surgery to remove her stomach.  Well, I plan to go to his office attempting to have all of my questions down on paper.  And as far as all of the medical terms in the reports,  I have looked  on  WebMD and found information on the symptoms and I find   it hard to believe that my mother is in her early stages.   She eats about 3 mouthful of food and says she is full. She also have a very hard time trying to release herself.   When she does release herself her stool is very dark (black) tarry looking.  In one of her medical reports it states they others areas were inspected;  and one of the words in the report said angiodysplasia  , which is in the colon, which was abnormal.  Also seem in the report findings about lung bases demonstrate platelike atelectsis, which means lung cancer.   I am not sure what her primary was looking at, when  I faxed him three different reports  it seem he was only looking at one. What I plan to do since I do have Power of Attorney over her medical to go to all of her doctors and the hospitals that her was ever admitted to obtain all of her medical history and then schedule an appointment with an oncology. Or is this something I should do?   Any information or what to do would be greatly appreciated, I do not want my mother to hurt nor suffer without attempting to find out answers and what stage oc the cancer she is in.      http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,50636,0.htm sruff20000 Sat, 28 Aug 2010 00:00:00 GMT I have a very close friend that has been diagnosed with Ovarian cancer.  We love each other like we are sisters.  I want to be supportive but I dont want to seem like I am over doing it.  I dont call her due to her sleeping very weird hours and I dont want to disturb her.  I email her and when she is up to it she will tell me its ok to call or come over for a visit.  I keep them short because I see how fast she gets tired.  I want her to know that I am here for her at all times.  Is it to much to mail her an inspirational card once a week or maybe something with a little humor?  I dont want to drive her crazy.  For those of you that have gone through something like this would you feel better if someone did this or would it be too much?  What would you have liked someone to do for you that I can do for her possibly?  Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.   http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,54709,0.htm Dorito Mon, 10 Jan 2011 00:00:00 GMT I always stress how much my pet, a boxer dog, assited me in my recovery.  In 2004, I spent 162 days in the hospital, in and out.  I think those that do have a loved pet, worries about the pet's care as well.  I am currentlu working with some boarding facilities that will give discount hospital rates.  I along with some others are working on providing transportation that will allow the pet to make visits to the patient.  It was important to me that my pet was cared for, if I could have had contact, well that would have been all the better. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,52681,0.htm Lizat7years Fri, 05 Nov 2010 00:00:00 GMT 01 . Four years ago I Had a popillary Careinoma, Now I Want to what is the most Suitable TSH level for pregnancy?                                                                                                           02.   What is the most suitable Thyroxin Dose for first three months,after my pregnancy? my weight 48 Kgs. and Age 31 Years Old. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,63237,0.htm Dilan Wed, 07 Dec 2011 00:00:00 GMT My name is Nikki Aksamit, and I am an author from Chandler, Arizona. I have self published a series of illustrated children's books called "Mommy, What is...?", and the latest book in the series is "Mommy, What is Cancer?". The administrators of this site have kindly allowed me to tell you about it. I truly believe this is a great resource for children who have a loved one battling cancer or who are fighting cancer themselves, and I think I could reach a much greater audience with the help of websites such as this one. "Mommy, What is Cancer?" (copyright March 2010) explains what cancer cells are, who can get cancer and how they can get it. It describes the treatments that are used to help fight cancer, but also tells kids that not all cancer cells can be killed. By letting young children know that there are people all around the world looking for ways to beat every type of cancer, “Mommy, What is Cancer?” sends out a message of hope. I lost a dear friend to a brain tumor when I was just eighteen. Both my mother and mother in law have battled breast cancer (and won!), my best friend lost her dad ten years ago to stomach cancer and we lost my husband's aunt to breast cancer in February. I wrote this book to explain cancer to my own children, and if can help give clarity to even one more child, this labor of love has been worth it. To try and stay within website guidelines, I will not publish my website address here, but you can contact me at my personal email address mycasa2ucasa@yahoo.com if you would like more information. God bless all of you during your difficult time. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,45844,0.htm mommywhatis Tue, 13 Apr 2010 00:00:00 GMT I came across this wonderful resource that provides clear information on palliative care: http://ww.getpalliativecare.org The site includes a palliative care provider directory, a definition and detailed description of what palliative care is and direct links to palliative care-related organizations.  http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,16881,0.htm stacey0504 Mon, 08 Oct 2007 00:00:00 GMT My boyfriend was diagnoses with Leukemia about a month ago. The doctors said they have never seen someone respond to treatment as well as him. It has still been a rough month for him, along with myself. He is going through so much and adjusting and just going through the ins and outs of dealing with this leukemia. Good news is, he is now in remission.  He still needs to continue treatment for up to 3 and a half years. And through all of this, i find myself feeling distant from him, kind of cast aside. I’m here for him 100% and I’m ready to do whatever he needs from me, day or night. I’m being as supportive as i can, and he knows this. I told him about how i felt like he wasn’t invested in me and I’m feeling distant from him. He told me this was too much. For me to express how I’m feeling through this process is too much. I understand he is going through a lot, but what about my feelings? It’s not like I’m asking to see him every day, or talk to me 24/7. Just communication, i don’t think that’s too much to ask for?  http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,57874,0.htm love_is_strong Sat, 23 Apr 2011 00:00:00 GMT My 30 year old daughter was diagnosed with breast cancer in July, has since had mastectomy and chemotherapy.  She is having her other breast removed this February.  I do not live in her city so moved in with her and her husband and baby for four and a half months so I could take care of the baby and do household chores so her husband could work.  I love my daughter but I have found this time very difficult as she has been very short with me and angry.  (Not all the time as we have also had good times as well).  I held my tongue so many times but inwardly felt very lonely and sad.  I tried to ask my daughter not to be rude to me but usually got the same reply. I really struggle with feeling guilty that I could not be a saint and never feel down or angry with her given that she is and has been through all that she has.  Any thoughts for me to cope when I go back to stay soon? http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,55005,0.htm annienz Tue, 18 Jan 2011 00:00:00 GMT 3/9/11,  found out my mother-in-law has advanced melonoma & 2 months to a year to live (already in the lymph nodes). MD sais there is no chemo or surgeries that can help her at this point.  He said to ask her what her last wishes are.  ?? So besides prayer & nutrition, what else can we do to prolong her life?  She has 11 children & I expect only half will get involved. Today, she is still comfortable & just stressed about her condition.  She has never taken good care of herself & when she saw her thumb nail turning dark she did not want to go to the doctor. OMG!  You hear this all the time, if only they had gone in early they could have saved their life! What else can we do to prolong her life? I found an investigational treatment @St. Mary's Medical center N. CA Melanoma Center.  The drug they use is "oncolytic immunotherapy".  For someone that will be 84, is this a good treatment for her? Thank you, debbsdc http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,56675,0.htm Debbsdc Sun, 13 Mar 2011 00:00:00 GMT My husband was diagnosed with Stage 3 bladder cancer in January. He's now getting chemo -- though he struggled with nausea the first week, and was hospitalized for neutropenia the next -- and will undergo a radical cystectomy in a few months. Since his diagnosis, I've been reading everything I can about BC, but the more I read, the more confused I get. There's so much information out there on traditional treatments, alternative treatments, etc. and a lot of it seems contradictory. The whole subject of supplements is also mind-boggling to me. Some sites say my husband needs a whole laundry list of things. The owner of my local health food store, who's a non-Hodgkins lymphoma survivor, says he should take IP-6 with Inositol, Pau D'Arco, All Thymus and a probiotic. Also confusing: some books and sites I've read say stay away from sugar, while the nutritionist at the hospital was sending him sugary protein shakes every day to help him gain weight, and she sent home a whole sheet of "nutritious" recipes that are loaded in sugar. What's right, and what's wrong? Thank you so much for any help you can provide. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,56255,0.htm bswife Sat, 26 Feb 2011 00:00:00 GMT Normal 0 false false false EN-US X-NONE X-NONE <w:LsdException Locked="false" Priority="63" SemiHidden="false" UnhideWhenUsed="false" Name="Medium Shadi http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,55673,0.htm Hollyanne Mon, 07 Feb 2011 00:00:00 GMT The Breast Cancer Society, Inc. has a warehouse in the Philadelphia, PA and Phoenix, AZ area that are supplied with NEW donated goods (hygiene products, bedding, housewares, office supplies, clothing etc.) that are available FREE to breast cancer patients. Please call (610)356-PINK for PA and (480)284-4014 for AZ to receive an application and schedule your appointment today. check out our website @ www.breastcancersociety.org http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,52458,0.htm Joeaton1 Fri, 29 Oct 2010 00:00:00 GMT