I understand what you are going through. My 82 year old mother in early Dec 2006 became jaundiced due to a bile duct stricture. A stent procedure followed which failed and had to be redone 10 days later and then again in Jan 2007. In late Jan she had a surgery for repairing her bile duct and the surgeon found cancer which had spread to lymph nodes and was inoperable.
My mother refused to go thru chemotherapy and elected to go back to her apartment in a retirement community. I am grateful that she has remained mentally alert and she has not been in pain so far.
Within the past 2 days she has started to have difficulty walking. The hospice nurse indicates that she has lost some lung capacity in the past week and she has become quite jaundiced.
I chose not to tell anyone at work except for my boss and told him I would need a few days soon. It wasnt until my boss asked me if she had her mind and then if she was in pain that I realized that we do have something to be thankful for.
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