I understand your feelings and am sorry that you both have to go through this. My husband is 45 and diagnosed November 2004. What a roller coaster ride it has been. By posting a message to this site, you are already headed in the right direction. Start searching and researching everything you can. It's overwhelming and frightening but knowledge is power. Talk to people, post messages, email specialists - do what ever you can. Find your local support groups.
My husband went to UCLA. They are great but his liver resection surgery deemed unresectable. His stage has advanced. He is receiving radiation but can not have chemo because his bilirubin count is too high. He was accepted as a transplant patient but he won't live long enough to get to the top of the organ list. We must find a living donor.
I am buried in information but email me if you want to share any of it.
PS. Ask a lot of questions - I have found that there are many different aspects of this cancer & no two people have the same ordeal.