I am dying and want to know what to expect.

 A whipple was attempted, but the cancer had spread.  The docory told my family I had six months.  The put a stint in my bile duct which caused pancreatitis.  After giving that a couple of weeks to heal, I began chemotherapy using Gemsar(spelling??).  I have had two treatments.  I will have three weeks on and 1 off for 6 cycles.  This is to prolong mylife.

They are great about making sure I am out of pain.  I am not afraid of dying, because I know I will be with my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.  I don't know how I could possibl cope with this situation if I did know that I will see my family whom I loves so dearly again.  I also know that I will be seeing my Daddy, my Mother-in-law, my baby sister and hosts of other relatives that went ahead of me.

 I'm sorry to ramble like that.  My actul questions are, this?  How will I know when it is getting near the end?  Will they be able to keep me out of pain?  I don't want my family to see me in pain, because I know this will be difficult enough for them.  I am only 49 years old.  I have grandchildren and one on the way.  There will be grandchildren I don't get to see, but I do want to know what dying from this awful disease will be like.

 Thanks

Hello, I don't know the answer to your question but I just wanted to say hello and to tell you that I read your message.

I also believe in Jesus and want to say not to be afriad. He will guide you.

Although your family will be very sad, please let them be with you. My dad has cancer and if he were to die..... I would be devastated but I also know I would want to be with him right until the end. Nothing would hurt me more than not being there. Let your family be with you..

Are you in hospice care, if not please cantact them immediately!  The nurses can help you and your family with end of life care  and explain all the details and choices you have. Hope this will help

 

On 5/4/2007 Chantzaly wrote:

 A whipple was attempted, but the cancer had spread.  The docory told my family I had six months.  The put a stint in my bile duct which caused pancreatitis.  After giving that a couple of weeks to heal, I began chemotherapy using Gemsar(spelling??).  I have had two treatments.  I will have three weeks on and 1 off for 6 cycles.  This is to prolong mylife.

They are great about making sure I am out of pain.  I am not afraid of dying, because I know I will be with my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.  I don't know how I could possibl cope with this situation if I did know that I will see my family whom I loves so dearly again.  I also know that I will be seeing my Daddy, my Mother-in-law, my baby sister and hosts of other relatives that went ahead of me.

 I'm sorry to ramble like that.  My actul questions are, this?  How will I know when it is getting near the end?  Will they be able to keep me out of pain?  I don't want my family to see me in pain, because I know this will be difficult enough for them.  I am only 49 years old.  I have grandchildren and one on the way.  There will be grandchildren I don't get to see, but I do want to know what dying from this awful disease will be like.

 Thanks

I am sorry to hear about your illness - my husband was diagnosed in July and we stopped treatment (chemo and tarcevia) after 2 months as that was killing him quicker - we have had a good quality of life since and he is nearing the end and we have hospice - if you do not have hospice please do so now. they are great support and can tell you exactly where youare at and what to expect.

may god be with you

I am so sorry...my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer February 7, 2007. We went to church the next sunday morning....and I will never forget what he said. He said either way you win Richard, we will either see a miracle of healing performed, or your going to live with the lord. And either way your a lucky man. I did not feel that way , because I feel I am losing my father. And I do not want to see him suffer with pain and not knowing. But then I realized...If you do have faith...you will never be alone, and if you trust whatever the lord has in store for you I truly believe you will not suffer. So just know you are not alone. I will pray for you. peace be with you always.

I, too, am saddened by your story.  I must admit after witnessing many people "cross over" (I cared for both my grandparents on home hospice and I was an EMT for many years), it does not appear that you will need to know what to expect.  The body has a kind way of just shtiing down, system by system, and then the LORD comes for you and you are at peace.

Do have home hospice, and do allow your family to be with you.  Some family members cannot handle it, and they know who they are, but it means much to those of us who remain, to know that we were "with them in the end" and to see the gentleness of it all.

I am happy that you have come to terms with your mortality, and have such an inspirational faith.  Your loved ones are there, and are waiting to celebrate GOD's love with you.  I know heaven is a wonderful place, because my grandparents are there and they were the two finest people I have ever known.

Make memories in your final days, and say all your "goodbyes".  May your passing be just the beginning of eternal life.

Blessings~

 

Beth

The body has a kind way of SHUTTING down, please excuse my typo.

Beth

I'm so sorry to hear of your advancing condition.  This disease is just awful.

I was with my grandmother hours before she passed.  It wasn't from cancer, and she WAS in a fair amount of pain as she was in a nursing home and they weren't doing anything for her.  Though I hated to see her in that kind of shape (which you will NOT be with hospice care...they take great care to make sure that your passing is peaceful), I got to physically say goodbye.  It was a moment I wouldn't trade for the world.  My mother has extensive staged SCLC right now, and she has six months or less.  I pray that I will be able to be with her too.  Your family with know if they are able to handle it or not, but with hospice care it is a truly peaceful transition.

Love and Prayers,

Heidi 

I just wanted to say Hello.  You did the right thing making peace with God and that he is your savior.  I am going through this cancer again and three years ago I have made peace with God and was saved.  This is a rough road.  I am only 45 and a grandmother too.  I will pray for you and I just wanted to let you know that I care.  I know this is easy for anyone to say to you because I am not you, but live each day the best you can and thank God for each and everyday you have.  I do this each and every day.  I also pray that more can be found to combat this cancer.  Please call Hospis I know they can help you.  They are a group of wonderful people who do this out of love and caring for you and your family.        Love Mary Grace

I am so sorry that you are presently fighting this diagnosis. Please make sure that you have sought a second and third opinion, if at all possible. THere are many living with this disease and have outlived these standard prognosis'.  If you visit the JH Discussion Board you will find many like your self who are fighting this disease for 2 years or more and have PC throughout. 

You asked about what to expect near the end.  If you go to www.craigscause.ca, and click on "What is Cancer" and scroll to the end you will find three excellent articles taken from a Hospice Organization.  I think they would answer many of your questions.   The articles are called "a Guide to Dying", Living and Dying" and "Final Stages." I hope these help you.  Sending you strength.