Not sure what to do now

My husband was recently diagnosed with Stage IV metastatic bladder cancer, which has spread to his left kidney being totally consumed with tumor.  Several of his lympnodes and 30-40 tumors in his lungs.  He has already had one treatment (chemo) of Gemzar and Carboplatin, the second one I'm unsure because I wasn't there of what the doctor gave him.  This pass week he was unable to receive a treatment because his white cell count was to low.  He urinates frequently which is very painful, full of clots and bloody.  I don't understand why his doctor is not offering to take the one kidney, or offer any other options except the chemo.  They are very vague in responding to question regarding treatment and outcome.  Tomorrow we are going to hopefully receive another tx and i will update on his progress or lack thereof.

If anyone knows what the process is with his condition, truthfully and what other options are available to us, I would really appreciate it.

On 5/29/2007 Mariebrn2007 wrote:

My husband was recently diagnosed with Stage IV metastatic bladder cancer, which has spread to his left kidney being totally consumed with tumor.  Several of his lympnodes and 30-40 tumors in his lungs.  He has already had one treatment (chemo) of Gemzar and Carboplatin, the second one I'm unsure because I wasn't there of what the doctor gave him.  This pass week he was unable to receive a treatment because his white cell count was to low.  He urinates frequently which is very painful, full of clots and bloody.  I don't understand why his doctor is not offering to take the one kidney, or offer any other options except the chemo.  They are very vague in responding to question regarding treatment and outcome.  Tomorrow we are going to hopefully receive another tx and i will update on his progress or lack thereof.

If anyone knows what the process is with his condition, truthfully and what other options are available to us, I would really appreciate it.

i can only say that it dose not sound good, be strong and ask the tough questions, dont fear what you cant controll, do your homework and get secound opp when you can. make him follow through on his treatments, and write down all your questions and make the time to have them answered is terms you can understand. I puchased a book calle Bladder Cancer for familiy. At barnes and noble. It is good reading and has good questions to ask your Doctor

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