father passed away

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father passed away

by Antonietta on Thu May 31, 2007 12:00 AM

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My father passed away on Friday. He was admitted into a hospice on the Tuesday and just decontioned almost as soon as he got there. He had to sleep with 4 pillows in an upright position because of his breathing. He had been sleeping like that for the past 2 months. They called us in on Wednesday morning to say he was really bad and they were expecting him to pass. When I got there he was sleeping and very weak and lying almost flat on one pillow. I immediately fixed his pillows and placed him the way he had been for the past 2 months  and he eventually woke and had some water and even something to eat. This is something they were not expecting. It was then that between my brothers and I, we decided that one of us be with him at all times.  He did get some what better for the next 2 days but lost his battle on Friday and 5.25 pm with all of us there. Part of me feels that at least now he is not struggling as he had to for the last 8 weeks. For every breath he took was such an effort for him. But then my heart aches because I will never see him again. He used to call me on the phone every night at 7 for a chat. I lost my mother 16 years ago and now my father. I am so lost. I just want to thank everyone who wrote to me and prayed for us.  For those who are struggling with this illness, I pray for a miracle and dont every give up hope. My father fought this till his last breath, he never gave up. Thankyou and God Bless you all. 

Antonietta

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by Mikeredf on Thu May 31, 2007 12:00 AM

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Antoinette,

 

God Bless You. I lost my mother on May 5th from complication due to lung cancer. She too suffered horribly for two weeks. She fought the fight and I am proud to call her MOM. Like your father I would call her at lunch time just to talk and she would go on forever. We also feel lost and struggle to make sense of this horrible disease. Espicially for a "Never Smoker" . Hopefully one day the joyous memories will overtake the pain that we all feel right now. God Bless you and I pray fro you and your familiy.

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by Patty5 on Thu May 31, 2007 12:00 AM

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I just want to say how sorry I am about both (above messages) of your losses. My mother just finished treatments a few weeks ago for esophageal cancer. She is doing well and I am thankful and cherish every day I have with her. I just can't help but feel that the cancer will return one day and I will post a message like yours. It is so hard to see your loved ones suffer. The pain of your losses will ease in time and you will think more about the good times. I know this because my brother died from a heart attack 4 years ago. A day never passes that he is not in my thoughts and I still miss him but I guess I just excepted the fact that he is gone and I pray one day I will see him again. God Bless both of you, Pat 

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by Njtwinmom on Thu May 31, 2007 12:00 AM

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You are all in my prayers, but certainly the two of you who have had losses just recently.

Our parents are our first loves, and it is never the same without them.  I agree, that I too, will have to post a message such as that at some point, but right now Mom is getting her chemo and trucking along.

 

GOD be with you at this difficult time.

Beth

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by Ldhstn on Thu May 31, 2007 12:00 AM

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I am so, so sorry for you. My father lost his battle this month, too (5/8/07). It is just very difficult. I felt I could have gone on, his body just could not.... sounds like what happened to your family..... I'm glad for him he was not alone.... sorry for your family....... take care, and just said a prayer for you..... along with some tears mixed in....... ldhstn

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by Njtwinmom on Thu May 31, 2007 12:00 AM

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My  sympathy to you as well.

Many Angels have left us this month.

Beth

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by Pbj11 on Fri Jun 01, 2007 12:00 AM

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So many losses -- too young and too quick.

My heart goes out to all three of you who have posted your loss.

Please take care of yourselves and I pray for God to be with you during this difficult time.

Sincere sympathy and best wishes to all of you. 

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by Cjmom on Mon Jun 04, 2007 12:00 AM

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I'm so sorry about your dad.  My mom is trying Tarceva now after three or four other kinds of chemo.  I've lost count.  I'm so scared because I see her going downhill and I don't want her to suffer.  But I know this disease and I know that she almost inevitably will.  I'm so far away and I can't help her.  I can't stop imagining as I'm sitting here typing what she's feeling right now... Is she breathing OK?  Is she in pain?  I pray to God she's sleeping peacefully.  I hate this disease.  To all who've suffered and lost, my sympathy and prayers.
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