Bile Duct Cancer

On Aug 16, 2005 my husband had sugery for bile duct cancer he came thru the sugery fine but the VA hospital didn't monotor him close enough and he bleed to death on the 19th of Aug 2005. He had caught his cancer at a T1 stage and had a 85 to 90 % survival rate..

He served in Vietnam from Jan 1969 to Jan of 1970 I have heard that they may have gotten some kind of a ???? over there does any one know  and what can you share with me THANKS

On 6/10/2007 Nannasbabies wrote:

On Aug 16, 2005 my husband had sugery for bile duct cancer he came thru the sugery fine but the VA hospital didn't monotor him close enough and he bleed to death on the 19th of Aug 2005. He had caught his cancer at a T1 stage and had a 85 to 90 % survival rate..

He served in Vietnam from Jan 1969 to Jan of 1970 I have heard that they may have gotten some kind of a ???? over there does any one know  and what can you share with me THANKS

Hi,

Your message stirred something in me, so I had to reply. My husband has this cancer. Surgery was nog possible, because it was discovered too late. I live in the Netherlands, my husband has not been in the army. He lead a very sportive and healthy life.

Maybe a little comfort for your hurt and grieve. The doctors told us that from the so-called successful operations, they allways see the patients back between 4-6 years later ..... dying of the same cancer.

My heart is with you. We have a couple of weeks/months maybe left. I know your pain and do wish you all the best.

Iris.

I am so sorry to hear your story.  That makes me feel so bad and my prayer are with you and your family. 

 What makes me feel worse is the response you received.  My boyfriend recently had resection and went through so much and has survived.  We are so thankful and I know this could of been your husband.  We take every day as it comes and we know God has blessed us.  Unfortunately, I don't think someone telling you that regardless your husband would have died mends a broken heart.  It doesn't.

I know you probably don't feel like there is much out there left for you but there is.  The whole time my boyfriend was in the hospital and all the times they told us he might not make it through the night killed my spirit.  I am so sorry for your loss and hope that you can remember all the joy and love you and your husband shared. 

Keep him in your life, heart and memories until you meet again.

On 6/14/2007 Christina23 wrote:

I am so sorry to hear your story.  That makes me feel so bad and my prayer are with you and your family. 

 What makes me feel worse is the response you received.  My boyfriend recently had resection and went through so much and has survived.  We are so thankful and I know this could of been your husband.  We take every day as it comes and we know God has blessed us.  Unfortunately, I don't think someone telling you that regardless your husband would have died mends a broken heart.  It doesn't.

I know you probably don't feel like there is much out there left for you but there is.  The whole time my boyfriend was in the hospital and all the times they told us he might not make it through the night killed my spirit.  I am so sorry for your loss and hope that you can remember all the joy and love you and your husband shared. 

Keep him in your life, heart and memories until you meet again.

 

Hi Christina,

The danger of being from another country and not writing in your own language is, that sometimes you write something that is not meant as the other person picks it up.

I'm terribly sorry for the sentence about the "husband would have died anyway". I didnot mean that as a comfort. What I meant was, that his time in the army probably wasnot the cause of his illness. So that his wife wouldnot feel "if only he hadnot served in the army, this wouldnot have happened".

The comforting I did mean was: even if somebody dies or has died, the happy, loving and cheerful memories do not die. So even if your loved one isnot with you physically, he'll allways be there in your mind and heart.

Hope I've put things right now.

Kind regards, Iris.

On 6/14/2007 Christina23 wrote:

I am so sorry to hear your story.  That makes me feel so bad and my prayer are with you and your family. 

 What makes me feel worse is the response you received.  My boyfriend recently had resection and went through so much and has survived.  We are so thankful and I know this could of been your husband.  We take every day as it comes and we know God has blessed us.  Unfortunately, I don't think someone telling you that regardless your husband would have died mends a broken heart.  It doesn't.

I know you probably don't feel like there is much out there left for you but there is.  The whole time my boyfriend was in the hospital and all the times they told us he might not make it through the night killed my spirit.  I am so sorry for your loss and hope that you can remember all the joy and love you and your husband shared. 

Keep him in your life, heart and memories until you meet again.

 

Hi Christina:

I am wondering how your boyfriend is doing now?  I presume he had a resection done at this time.  It is not easy as a caregiver to watch us go through what we do; however, the good news is that we can sometimes survive.  I have an acquaintance that had bile duct cancer 13 years ago and is still around to tell her story.  She is also a 6 year breast cancer survivor as well. 

I too feel the loss of those who lose the battle--sometimes because of not being carefully watched or followed up or medical care.  Your boyfriend is fortunate that he found a good surgeon to take care of him.  His rate of survival is higher.

Please keep me posted on how you both are doing.  My prayers are with you for continued healing; and for those who have loss a love one...continued healing, loving and holding on to the great memories made.

Sue

Hi everyone,

Sorry it has taken me so long to respond.  I hope no one took what I said wrong.  I just feel very strongly about this stuff.  My boyfriend went through a lot in the last 9 months and we did not think he was going to make it nor did the doctors but somehow he did and is now doing great. (read keep the faith) 

He just had his last ct scan on 6/9/07 and so far is cancer free ( this is 6 months since resection on 1/5/07).  It's a miracle and we feel very blessed.  Everyone told me to be prepared for the worst because his cancer was unresectable and even if they did resect it, the tumor involved so much of the liver that he probably would not make it through the after math.  I continued to keep my spirits high and my faith in GOD even higher.  He made it through and is currently doing great.

We have our next CT scan in Sept. and we know it will be great.  He still has a lot of life to live. 

Thanks for asking.

Christina

On 7/2/2007 Christina23 wrote:

Hi everyone,

Sorry it has taken me so long to respond.  I hope no one took what I said wrong.  I just feel very strongly about this stuff.  My boyfriend went through a lot in the last 9 months and we did not think he was going to make it nor did the doctors but somehow he did and is now doing great. (read keep the faith) 

He just had his last ct scan on 6/9/07 and so far is cancer free ( this is 6 months since resection on 1/5/07).  It's a miracle and we feel very blessed.  Everyone told me to be prepared for the worst because his cancer was unresectable and even if they did resect it, the tumor involved so much of the liver that he probably would not make it through the after math.  I continued to keep my spirits high and my faith in GOD even higher.  He made it through and is currently doing great.

We have our next CT scan in Sept. and we know it will be great.  He still has a lot of life to live. 

Thanks for asking.

Christina

Hi Christina,

Wonderful to read this good news. I sincerely wish that the two of you will have a lot of happy years together. I like to especially congratulate you for your strength of hanging in there. For I know how much a burden it also is for the caretaker.

My husband is, at this moment, doing very well. Though we know the clock is ticking. But he went back to work two full days of the week. The days that he is home are good and loving. How strange it may look, we enjoy our days together and especially the weekends, when our sons are at home.

My prayers are with you and your boyfriend and my love too.

Iris.

Hi Iris,

Thank you so much for your love and prayers.  I am very sorry to hear about your husband.  I heard of this soy drink called Haelan 951 that has many cancer fighting antioxidents in it that have helped a lot of people.  It is worth a try.  I hope the very best for you and your husband.  Keep the Love strong and Faith in God even stronger. 

When we first found out my boyfriend had cancer, I felt devastated.  My whole world felt like it fell apart and I was lost.  I didn't know what to do and just wanted to crawl into a little whole and pretend like this was not happening to me.  I recented the lord because I asked "WHY ME? WHY HIM? HE IS A GOOD MAN AND WE ARE JUST STARTING OUR LIVES TOGETHER?"  then I heard this preacher speak and it was like GOD was speaking to me through him.  "He said it is always easy to blame GOD for everything that happens,  instead why don't you pray to GOD.  If someone is sick and all hope seems lost, expect GOD to give you a miracle, don't pray for one expect one and then when it comes THANK GOD.  I tell you this because we went through it.  We were at a hospital that told us his cancer was unresectable and there was nothing they could do for him.  They sent him home with an external drain, bag of pain medication and told us to enjoy the little bit of time he had left. 

We didn't give up.  We expected our miracle and I truly believe that GOD delivered us.  I pray for the same for you two.  KEEP THE FAITH AND REMEMBER DON'T JUST PRAY FOR A MIRACLE, EXPECT ONE.

With all my LOVE,                                                      

Christina