25 yr old

My 25 yr old sister in law went from being told (in the last month) that she had the flu, had acid reflux,had an ulcer, to  (in the last week) being told its a small self contained stomach cancer in very early stages, they did surgery 2 days ago and when he opened her up he found that her stomach, intestines, liver, pancreaus etc. are all massed together with cancer, all they could do is place a feeding tube and closed her up. Wouldnt the Dr. have seen that in the cat scan? Its too advanced to do anything but give her support.  Now the family is demanding chemo, she has been out most of the time. I know that doing chemo might support her symptoms a little , but will it honestly make her suffer more or longer? This is a very mature level headed young woman and I think if she was given the choice she would not choose to exist like this. At what point do they just let your family take over your decisions? When shes not asleep on pain meds she could make her own decisions. I  dont dare tell even my husband that they need to face reality so that they can prepare. Any advice would be great. 

I am very sorry for your sister in law.

My advice to you would be to get a second oppinion. A specialist in this feild. at a cancer centre perhaps.

I hope she gets better. I will pray her her for you.

Regards

Gilda

Sorry to hear about your sister-law. My heart breaks to hear the news. I was 35 diagnosed at stage III. Seek a second opinion. I know this is a very difficult time. But, keep your hope and believe that God has his plan in life.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Myboys