How The Hell Do You Cope!!!!!!!!!

 The doctors have given my 47 year old husband 16 months to live. He has gr4 gbm of the brainstem.We have 6 children the youngest is 7 the oldest 14. This situation  is incomprehensible. I am  a christian but the cold hard facts are if  a miracle doesn't occur I will be left to raise the kids on my own. How do people cope with the stress now and then the aftermath. How can I help the kids not to lose it.

 

On 7/14/2007 lab-lady wrote:

 The doctors have given my 47 year old husband 16 months to live. He has gr4 gbm of the brainstem.We have 6 children the youngest is 7 the oldest 14. This situation  is incomprehensible. I am  a christian but the cold hard facts are if  a miracle doesn't occur I will be left to raise the kids on my own. How do people cope with the stress now and then the aftermath. How can I help the kids not to lose it.

I don't have any easy answers for you other than to keep with your prayer.  God has not forgotten nor abandoned you.  I know it sounds trite, but it is true.  Remember that doctors don't have all the answers, God does, however.

My son died when he was just 17 years old.  I sincerely believe that nobody can cope with the loss of a loved one without faith.  Keep you children focused on HIM and don't be afraid to admit you don't know why this is happening.  None of us really knows God's plan for our lives.

I will pray for you and your children.  I know you have a hard road.  I'm sure your husband is being torn up with worry about you and your children.  That is my concern for my family.  When I was first diagnosed with NHL that was my first worry.  It still is, but I have come to live one day at a time and try to put my life in HIS hand every day.  Tougher to do on some days than others.

Carol

I have cancer too. Diagnosed 3/06. I began the Johanna Budwig Protocol shortly after my diagnosis. In 15 months my tumor has shrunk by almost 60%. Dr. Budwig, a brilliant woman, won a Nobel Prize for her work. Although, I do not have the same cancer as your husband I think you'll find testimonials in the following links regarding his particular kind. The basis of the program involves consuming healing omega 3 oils ( from flax seeds and the combination of cottage cheese and flax oil) and eliminating certain foods from the diet. My experience has made me a big believer and I know there are many others who feel the same way. You can find some information at the following sites. http://www.flaxoflife.com/ http://www.healingcancernaturally.com/budwig_protocol.html http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/FlaxSeedOil2/ ( This is a great resource. Join the group and read the files.) I would be glad to try and answer any questions you may have. If you'd like to talk on the phone that would be fine. This has been a blessing in my life that I have to share. May God bless you, your husband and family. Mike

Sorry, when sending this message, I didn't get the confirmation that the message had actually been sent. So, I did a little extra tapping on my keyboard. Nevertheless, be assured that my experience indicates the message bears repeating. Mike

HI there, I have to agree with Carol, I too have cancer, Waldenstroms macroglobulenemia, but the Lord has it all under control. that doesn't mean I don't have bad days, but with His help. and wonderful friends,and family, I have been able to cope with this very well. I still believe in miracles too, God is still in the healing business today as he was years ago. I will be praying for you and your children, I know what has helped me so much we have a great prayer board on the net, www.allin1accord.com,  there are many there, that are cancer survivors or still battle this desease, but we can pray together and  cry and vent together, they have helped me so much these past 2 1/2 years! And yes, we laugh together too! Merriment is good for the soul! But a positive attitude is so very important, don't listen to anyone that tries to feed you negative, I pray the Lord touches your husband, and gives you the right things to help your children through this trial,  Isaiah 41;13 says, I am the Lord thy God, who holds your right hand and tells you not to fear, that is the scripture I have stood on now for 2 1/2 years! God bless you and your family, I am here praying for you, In Christ, Pat

 

On 7/14/2007 lab-lady wrote:

 The doctors have given my 47 year old husband 16 months to live. He has gr4 gbm of the brainstem.We have 6 children the youngest is 7 the oldest 14. This situation  is incomprehensible. I am  a christian but the cold hard facts are if  a miracle doesn't occur I will be left to raise the kids on my own. How do people cope with the stress now and then the aftermath. How can I help the kids not to lose it.

I saw a message on this website from April 4 entitled Hope.  It was so helpful because she recommended a song written by Amy Pehrson called "All Aboard."  It is a message of hope and I now listen to it several times a day.  the website is http://allaboardforacure.org and then click on the song.  It is such an inspired song.  I will pray for you and hope that God will grant you a miracle.  Maybe the miracle will be that some how you will find a way to cope.  Please let the kids know that whether the answer is yes or no from the Lord; He still loves them and you.  Keep the faith and have as good of a time now as possible while he's here with the family.

I know how you feel.  it is a terrible feeling, mu husband was diagnosed with the same tumor grade 4 on December 22, 2006.  My husband is now 37 years old.  We have 2 children ages 6 & 9, but I am having a terrible time.  I work full time, but I thank God every day for my job because I have insurance.  I also pray to God every morning to give me the strength to get me through the day and to be the best mother and wife I can be but most days I feel like I can't please anyone and that I am a failure. 

I have explained to my daughter who is 9 the best I could, it is a very difficult thing to speak to your children about.  They will act out in different ways, but it does seem like to much to take, I am also praying to God for a miracle and they happen every day so what ever you do don't give up or let your husband give up, it is really hard because sometimes you will feel like your going to have a nervous break down, but it will be ok.  Sometimes you need to have a moment to cry alone.  I will pray for you and your family.