Grieving

I lost my husband June 12th to GBM Brain Cancer. This board was a tremendous help to me. Does anyone know of a site for grief counseling? I  have been doing OK and now I'm really struggling with the loss and the months he was ill.  I have been seeing a therapist but really feel like I need to talk to someone that has experienced  this kind of loss.

Thanks,

JoAnn

So sorry to hear of your loss.

www.Cancer Care.org has support for everyone

Best to you always,

Beth

Hello, My name is Mary.  I lost my oldest Sister Connie on October 24, 2006.  She fought a courageous battle with Cancer, started with lung, kidney and liver, went a year of treatments which they told her were going well, and then left us with brain cancer.  I spent her last 6 weeks of life with her at Palliative Care here at the hospital.  Although we are a family of 9 children and Connie lived with my Mother for 14 years, Connie's wish to die at home, in her bedroom was not honored by my family. This has cost a family a great division, which can not be repaired.  The person who could fix this is gone, Connie.  I miss her so much, but I treasure the last 6 weeks of her life which I spent with her.  We had alot of laughs, cries, and sadness. But i would not change it for the world, even though I lost the rest of my family in the process.  Now I greieve every day, for Connie, and the family I have lost.

I would have thought I would be better by now, but I am not.

What can I do?

Mary, this is so sad. Life is way too short for things like this to come between family. It doesn't matter now, and your sweet sister is now at peace and not suffering anymore. Those who remain should put this behind them and let it go because it is not what is important. We learn what is important with cancer, and especially the suffering of brain cancer. And, often, we have wishes that just aren't possible to uphold, and caregiving is something that really has to be made easiest on the caregiver. We all would like to die at home, and go peacefully asleep in our own beds, but that isn't always possible. It's time for the family to stop the feud, and talk to someone that can help. Do you have a pastor that can sit down with the family and help you sort this all out? I hope you can all work this out. I doubt your sister would want this to be the defining outcome of her death. I expect she would prefer that her dignity be maintained and protected from such disagreement. At least that seems to be a rule of thumb with the dying.

Hello, I to lost a loved one. My 24 year old daughter from colon cancer. I have found a site that really helps me connect with others that have walked in our shoes. It is (Compassionate Friends) . I think you can find the link by just typing that in. Hope this can help ease your pain. God Bless and take one day at a time. Dana

Thank you for the information.My mother is battling pancreatic cancer and this site has been extremely helpful..