I hope by the time you read this message you Dad is doing fine. I am truly sorry about your Mom.
I am now 45 years old, and I had the whipple 3 years ago. They had found a 'spot' (I hate that word) on my duodnem which grew onto my pancreas. My duednem was removed along with 25% percent of my pancreas. During the surgery they removed 15 nodes. One of them had the decease on it. I did 6 months of chemo. In October it will be three years. Although I had another medical issue last year (scar tissue from the whipple) and needed another surgery this time last year, I am doing great. I feel good. I have outstanding doctors, and have all the faith in the world in them.
Through all of this, I did have a scare. They thought it spread to my liver. They saw spots (UGH)...but I've had a biopsy and it is not cancer. Thank you, God!!!.
It has been a rough road. The worst of it is emotional. Everytime I have a test - I freak out and get so nervous. But so far, so good.
I wish you well. And to all who read this, Be Well!
TN