Dear Noa:
My cancer was Non-Hodgkin's lymphoma, so it is not the same cancer or chemos that your friend is taking. Nevertheless, her immediate pains are not uncommon after any treatments for this disease. The initial symptoms like numbness and tingling pains in the legs, feet, arms and or hands is common peripheral neuoropathy that is from the initial treatments.
The problem that a lot of cancer survivors, or veterans, as I prefer to say, since this is a war we are in, seem to have is long term overall aches and pains in your upper and lower extremities, and a general feeling of fatigue.
The biggest problem with these side effects is that most people in the medical field, including your doctors, specialists, nurses, therapists, etc. can't find or see any physical reason for any of us to feel the way we do, so they have a tendency to act as if we are faking it or lying about it. Their answer is usually to tell you that it's not related to the treatments, whether it was chemo, radiation, or both.
The best way all of us veterans of cancer can help each other and those who will come after us, is to write down all of your symptoms before you visit your doctor next and insist that they are put into your permanent written reports. Otherwise the doctors have a tendency to downplay or whitewash your lasting effects from having and treating this disease. I have had to have my doctor rewrite some of his summaries on my follow ups because of his exclusion of what I was telling him how I actually felt. You have a right to copies of all your written reports from any test or visit you have with your providers.
I believe that we all have the right to have how we feel validated by the medical profession,
especially since so many of us are living so much longer. A lot of people who have gone through this disease feel guilty or not strong because they are told by their health provider
that they shouldn't feel like they do, as if that makes the pain less real.
We must educate the medical professionals to acknowledge these after effects and to strive toward finding better ways to help people deal with the long term problems after treatment, and the only way to do that is to speak up and let our doctors know, we are strong, resilient, and willing to live, but yes we are in pain and it is real.
Good fortune and God's grace to you and your family. Please allow all that wish to help you in your struggle, to do so. That is your gift to them. Keep your sense of humor, and go kick some cancer butt.
Please get in touch if you ever need an ear to yell in. Robbie R.