Father, almost 88, dx 6/12/07 stage IV tongue cancer, mets to lymph nodes both sides of neck, radiation M-F for seven weeks, Erbitux chemo once per week, finished with week two
I am going to visit my father (across the country) Aug. 23-27. I will draw together a small celebration to honor his 88th birthday, which is one week after we leave.
My plans do not include a dinner (eating issues) or having people over (fatigue), but I will cheer the house with fresh flowers, balloons, little gifts and cards. I am having several friends of his call with surprise birthday wishes, friends on the east coast from when he lived in CT. He now lives in AZ. I am concerned that he might not be able to talk by then, end of week four, but I can simply give him the phone and tell him to listen. Hope he likes that.
Also, and the reason for this post: Can you give me some suggestions for what I might make into a soothing package for him?
I am thinking of the following:
aloe vera lotion.
"Magic" mouthwash (Is this something I can buy? Or is it a prescription? Or does he have to get it from a dentist?)
a soft toothbrush
What else might soothe his skin and throat?
I know many of you have been through this treatment, and know what feels good and what works. I am really interested in your ideas. I would like to make up a "pretty but practical" basket of goodies that will be helpful to him. Please, if you would kindly give me your good ideas, I would appreciate it greatly.
Thank you in advance.
Maggie