My Fatther In Law Has Terminal Stomach Cancer

I need advice. from people who have experienced this form of the dieses. He was fine in Sept of 06. Terrible stomach aches in Nov. 2006Diagnosed Dec 11th 2006. Had Chemo in Feb and March It shrunk the turmor so they wanted to operate to remove the stomach. The opened him up and after of 5 hours of looking around. They closed him up and said there is nothing they could do It spread to the colon and liver. Granual cancer. So by the grace of god he healed enough to travel in May 2007 and came to America to see us . he was tired and weak he could walk well. Eating was hard Food would ge stuck and after two mouth fulls he would hold his chest and take a sip of water. But food was getting stuck. It hurt to watch him eat. He did burp lots bless his heart. He has not eaten in 4 weeks and stopped drink fludis 2 weeks ago and collasped in the house. HE went to the hospital and the gave him Iv fluids and inserted a Tube in his lower stomach. The say it is a size of a melon.  He has sleept most of the time since surgery and now. He his home pulling out the iv fluids and seems to be losing his mind angry and screaming leave me alone to die. leave me alone. We are not coping well. Does any no what is the next stage? he is sleeping lots. He is very skinny now. I do not know we are in America he is in England and We want to go back but we can not stay long. Oh dear this is awefull. Is the end near or could this be like the for months.

My heart goes out to you and your family. I am in the same exact boat as you. My father started with the same symptoms in late Feb of 2007, and has Stage IV. He has been treating with chemo, with no success. He is now going for a radiation consultation tomorrow morning, as they feel they would like to open up the opening of the stomach so he can eat and be able to get his own saliva down. He had a J tube inserted into his lower intestines a few months back, which has been his only source of nutrition. He was 134 lbs, and is now up to 147. He is gaining, but slowly. The Dr has not given us a time frame, we just go day by day. If you ever need to talk, I am here for you, via e-mail, private message, etc,

 

I am praying for you and your family.

 

Kristen

 

hello. my name is kris and i live in wisconsin. my father was just diagnosed w/ stomach cancer in july. he had the cancer removed from his stomach on aug. 1st. but they found that it has spread to his liver. 15-18 cells on the liver. spread out. it may also be in the colon. but they don't know for sure. and since it's stage IV they aren't gonna go looking further. he has been offered chemo if he chooses. they wanted to start in 2 weeks.

after doing the research on the 2 drugs they were gonna try. we want to wait and get a 2nd opinion. the chemo they want to try will probably kill him. so we want to weigh our options. hope to go to mayo clinic withing the next 3 weeks.

i have no idea how to deal with this. i am married to a great man who is supportive. but this is hard. i have a 3yr old daughter who was diagnosed w/ autism last year...and this is harder than that! i am a wreck. crying all the time. but this is very new. just found out tuesday the whole situation.

how does everyone else cope? and does anyoone have chemo drug info that has helped someone they know? i am just in the begining stages of this so i have alot of research to do in what seems like a short period of time. i know nothing will cure my dad. but he just wants to be around a little longer than the odds they gave him. and i want that too.....

Just be strong for/around your Dad.  Yes, it's extremely hard to watch someone you care about go through all this.  Spend as much time as you can with him.  That's the best advice I can give you.  My Mom passed away 9 months ago today and it's still hard, but she isn't suffering anymore.  If you need anything at all, please just ask!  At least you have a good supportive husband.  My boyfriend at the time was just awful!!!!  Sherry in Louisiana

Add me to the list.  My father is going through the same thing.  Be there for your loved ones as much as possible.

God Bless

M