Hello,
I too am new to this site, though I was diagnosed with Stage III/2 rectal cancer in May 2005. I had 6 weeks 24/7 chemo on a pump plus 6 weeks 5xweek radiation to shrink the tumour as it was very close to the anal verge and in more than three lymph nodes. Developed every possible complication, including radiation proctitis, klebsiellla septicemia (from the feeding tube in my port), MRSA, but despite this, finished the radiation as I had heard that stopping the radiation prematurely could make your prognosis worse. Had the full mesorectal excision and anterior resection end August 2005 with an ileostomy, six weeks recuperation, and then 6 rounds of FOLFAX (oxaliplatin, leukovorin & 5FU) over 14 weeks. I had my ileostomy reversal in late April 2006. It took my system a week before it was stable enough to release me from hospital, and I was going to the toilet up to 30 times a day for the first month (I would sleep on an airmattress on the floor of the bathroom). But, I did go to Alaska with my two children and my husband in late June (wore Depends on the plane) and was able to go hiking (don't hike in Depends - they chafe). By the end of the year, I was able to rely just on a pad, and my BMs had slowed to anywhere from 2-20 a day. The unpredictablility is the worst. I can eat most everything now, though I have regretfully concluded that legumes (black & white beans & lentils in particular) and brussel sprouts or cabbages, are NOT recommended. I have terrible gas and still have days when my bms are small and multiple. At the advice of my surgeon, I take metamucil caplets (2 in the morning) and that seems to help somewhat and I tend to take 2 lomotil at night if I have been having difficulties. Night is definitely worst - I have not had an uninterrupted night sleep since this all began. But, IT DOES GET BETTER. I am back to teaching (substitute) - and have learned how to either control or disguise the large gas eruptions (in a middle school, much cause for hilarity), usually can tell when it is going to be gas or when it is liquid, know that if I have more than two glasses of wine at night, I may well have bowel incontinence later that night. But I am alive and am doing almost everything I did before I was diagnosed.