Hi Diana...
My mom was diagnosed with Stage 4 stomach cancer in 20002. After 2 years of serious chemo, she is now in remission - only with chemo, no radiation! She's an amazing person. In February 2004, she had her stomach removed. Unfortunately, she lost even more weight after the surgery - about another 20 pounds. Since Feb of last year, her health has been deteriorating. She can't eat "small meals" - in fact she can barely keep anything down. She has severe acid reflux that keeps her from eating or drinking anything. (She also must go to dialysis 3 times a week because her kidneys won't function as a result from the chemo.) I am still waiting for a somewhat "normal life" to return. I don't want to be negative or pessimistic, but she has told me that if she could do it again, she would have kept her stomach. She's 58 years old. My only advice is that if your husband can live with eating and drinking foods that may very bland in the beginning and can strictly follow nutritionist's advice, he should pursue this. I have to say that my mom has not followed any strict diet regiment or eats the right foods, but she is also in a different stage than most. What I know is that this recovery is a lot more difficult than doctors make it out to be - it's not "more smaller meals per day" ...for my mom, it's been a total change of lifestyle and her life. Hope this may have helped you with your decision. Please let me know if you have any other questions - I would be happy to be as honest with you as possible.