I am so angry

 

On 10/15/2007 Kristennyc wrote:

Angry that my father was taken from us after a short 7 months. Angry that the doctors said there was nothing more they can do. Angry that his last days were spent doped up on morphine, and all he was doing was breathing.

 

I cannot get this out of my head. I miss him so much, and cannot believe how quickly this disease took him from us. Chemo did not work, nothing worked. Every day was horrible for him. He couldnt eat, couldnt drink, was on a feeding tube for 14 hours a day. All of this to a man who did nothing but good, helped others, and was a wonderful father. I am just so sad, depressed, and mad. Im sorry to come here and do this, but most people really dont understand. I cannot believe there is no cure for this horrible disease, after all the money and research that has been put into it.

 

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Dear Angry,

I am so sorry for your loss but I want to encourage you to somehow get past your anger.  You are not helping yourself or anyone else by being angry.  I  lost my husband after 41 years of marriage to stomach cancer.  He fought it with everything he had but accepted the fact that his prognosis was very poor.  We talked about it a lot.  He never asked why me.  He did a lot of research and all of the literature stated that the prognosis for stomach cancer, stage 3 and 4, was very poor.  I believe  there are certain things in life that we must accept. We can't waste our precious effort on things we cannot change.  Maybe some day there will be better treatment and an easier way to diagnose stomach cancer earlier.  My God take away your anger and give you peace about your father's death. 

 

 

Hey

I really feel for you.

My dads in the same situation, the docs got it wrong, when they did find out there was nothing they could do, he cant eat, can barely drink and is on tubes.

the docs havent given him long.

Be we as a family are still hoping, and where theres life there hope.

 

 

I am so, so sorry for your loss. My dad is now 6 mths into his battle, and he is not getting any better. Your statements worry the heck out of me, as my dad's chemo as well has not worked. He can't eat, drink. He's lost 60 lbs, he looks nothing like the daddy I remember. The medicine he's on for hiccups knocks him out to the point that he can't function alone or just sleeps and is delusional when he is awake. When he is alert he is angry sometimes. Today was not a good day for him, and he stated he didn't want to go to the doctor anymore. We pray his statement is out of frustration and will reconsider, but I hate to see my father go through this. I hate to see him suffer so. He was such a healthy active man, it scares me that you don't know when this disease can hit you.

iam going thru the exzact same thing with my dad and i hate this thing called cancer .. i do know that its best to let him sleep i have found out the body is healing just like when we need it when we have the flu.. is your dad drinking boost to keep his energy up?? see my dad has a feeding tube i feed him every three hours , my dad lost over 100 pounds so we got a peg tube we are only 1/2 way thru chemo and radioadtion.does your dad see a diettion every week .. ?? i even got some lorazampam for his nerves, at least hes not so angered as much any more now iam trying to get him to go to a support group so he can hear what iam going thru as well. i let him know that iam doing my best for him and it take a team to beat this thing called cancer and he needs to help us help him and one way is to not to take it out on the ones who are helping him .. you have to deal with your anger to go to a support group for you i do and boy does it help me. see iam really mad my mom hasnt even been gone a year and i have a handicapped sister that lives with my dad and iam taking care of her to i have no live right now, but some one has to do it and it will be me you will make it thru this one day at a time justr like me with tears too. i try to make my dad laugh once a day and thats hard to do but if i can get him to laugh thats good. hang in there every dy some thing is new and are you preparing your self if the cancer does take him??? i ws with my mom the day she died i hated it then but you know what i was there holding her hand tell the last breath and she wasnt alone , and i will do that for my dad as well, we lll have to go thru it some time in our lives and cancer is the toughest one its a cruel way to go very pain ful for everyone.good luck with you and you can go out side and yell up at the sky and throw rocks it works for a little while. and dont forget about you ..

i thought his daughter and wife both died of cancer even using the macrobiotic diet !!
just how some people it works and other don't