I'm so sorry to hear your news. my husband was having night sweats and losing weight in 2001, and they couldn't find anything wrong. Finally a ct scan found a kidney tumor the size of a grapefruit. They operated and removed the kidney and tumor, said they got it all. 6 months later they found it had spread, did another surgery. A few months later thry found more in the bones, lung and liver. Doctors prognosis wasn't good. They gave him less than 2 years.
However, they didn't know what a fighter my husband was. although hedied this year, he lived 3 times longer than predicted, and made every moment count. He applied for and got tenure at the college where he taught chemistry. There, he started an award winning science club, established scholarship programs, participated in administration, introduced innovative teaching methods, liasoned with city programs and other colleges, and was a very beloved professor. All this while fighting cancer, but he fought with many resources, doing lots of research. He participated in stage 3 trials, used herbs, reiki, acupuncture and meditation.
he frequently said, "life is about joy' and did all he could that filled him with joy. I wish he were here now, but I'm so glad he used the illness as a wake-up call to go out and pursue his dreams. He lived to see our girls finish their first year of college.
One great resource for him was the American kidney cancer Association meetings, where he got the latest info and met many great people. One of them was Gerald White, a survivor who beat all the odds. You can get his story and tape from the akca, and they're very inspiring.
My best wishes to your dad-may he be a survivor to inspire others!
starshine