Relax! You are not as bad off as you imagine (as your thought processes run wild in the night). Take a deep breath and realize that you are still in control of this situation!! You really are. We, my wife and I, were in your shoes at your exact point about 8 months ago. We called CTCA (Cancer Treatment Centers of America) and within days were under the care of Dr. Citrin - in Zion, IL. He, like your doctor, believed, after a thorough exmaination and a bank of tests, that chemnotherapy (and possibly radiation to follow) would do the job. Lo, and behold, after 2 mos. the tumor was shrinking - and after 6 mos. it was gone! This was verified by a PET scan. The radiation was not necessary..
YOU have caught yours early, are getting several opinions, and now must decide who is the best (who you're most comfortable with). In our case, we trusted CTCA and Dr. Citrin completely - and are so glad we did!
You will have a job on your hands dealing with the whole package - but you are in charge and in control of your cancer - IT is not in control of you! Your mental attitude is 50% of the cure!! YOU must TAKE your life back! - not expect a "magic bullet" to give it back to you. God bless you and good luck...we are all in this together...