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by CAM0366 on Tue Oct 30, 2007 12:00 AM
by Kristennyc on Tue Oct 30, 2007 12:00 AM
On 10/30/2007 Kristennyc wrote:I would strongly consider Hospice. He will be kept comfortable, and lucid. They are caring, and attentive individuals and keep patients comfortable and out of pain until their time comes. Watching a loved one die is horrible, but my father was in hospice, and at least I didnt have to watch him die in pain. He was sedated most of the time. I felt that him dying there, gave him his dignity, and the treatment he deserved,
Thank you for your reply Kristen. We are defintely going to have Hospice, whether at home in in the nursing facility. What I am wondering is if my mother-in-law and other family are going to be able to care for him at home and are going to be able to handle his passing. The doctor told my sister-in-law that if the tumor bursts, he will spit up blood and die very traumatically. I am worried about the effect this will have on everyone if it happens this way. Is this typically the way and EC patient passes?
by allpoos on Tue Oct 30, 2007 12:00 AM
If possible, bring him home. It's so much more soothing to the patient to be in familiar surroundings. You can contact Hospice for help. God Bless and good luck.
We all have our different opinions on home hospice, or hospice. I myself, strongly suggest hospice. I understand the feeling of needing familiar surroundings, but I know that it was too traumatic for my mother to take care of my father at home, and home hospice only provides services for 2-3 hours a day. In hospice, he will be attended to in every way possible. Pain management, changing of his bed, bathing, all things that will be very difficult to do at home. My mother and I brought family pictures, belongings, and other personal items to my fathers room at hospice. He will sleep alot in hospice, and be out of pain, and if something happens such as his tumor exploding, they will be able to clean him quickly, and attend to him medically. I do not think you or your mother want to have to deal with that type of trauma. You will feel so completely helpless, and it's best not to be in that situation when you are dealing with so much already.
by Debbyw67 on Tue Oct 30, 2007 12:00 AM
Is the doctor you are referring to his oncologist? I have never heard anyone mention the idea that the tumor may burst before and I have been on this and other EC boards since March. My father died somewhat unexpectedly in the hospital in July. He was admitted for pain management and constipation but it turned out that his systems were shutting down and he died of cardiac arrest. He was stage IV with mets to liver, lungs and nodes. His tumor in his esophagus was pretty big but none of his doctors ever mentioned that it might burst. We were about to have hospice speak with my parents but never got that far. I have heard wonderful things about hospice but I think the decision to do in home or in a facility is definitely subjective. How much pain is your FIL having and how much care does he need? How strong emotionally is your MIL and what are your FIL's requests? I think they should be honored to the best of the families ability.
Good luck and I will pray for your father-in-law.
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