Gatorgirl,
Thank you for sharing your story with me. I have extreme faith in God and the powers of a prayer, let alone the hundreds of prayers we are blessed to have working for us.
Today I talked to a friend that is a Doctor and discussed the procedure and the aftermath. Unfortunately the carotid artery encapsulated in the tumor is the worst thing that can happen. They cannot remove it, the tumor is still growing and and the cancer is spreading. I just hate to see him go through all this pain and misery and have the same outcome.
I have prayed and prayed for an answer to my question of Should we do the surgery. I feel deeply inside that the answer is no, God has given a chance to say goodbye to this wonderful man in our own way. I did a lot of research and have realized that with the radical they want to do he will have no quality of life IF he ever comes out of the hospital. The chance of bleeding out is high, the cancer is spreading to other areas (sinus, skull, lungs, etc.) but they cannot address that until they find if they can remove the danger here. He will have no ability to talk, eat, drink, move his arm and shoulder (only after long sessions of therapy) and due to the weakened condition he is in I don't know if he can even survive surgery.
We will go to the appointments set up, listen to the Dr's opinions and sit down with our sons and family and family of friends and make the best choice for him.
Now.. IF they tell us that the carotid artery is NOT completely encased in the tumor as they say it was.. well... THAT is a different story!
Sometimes God blesses you with the opportunity to say goodbye to someone, you just have to be ready to do it.
Weezy