I Dont Wont To Remember My Grandmother With Urin Bag On The Side

My 84 year old grandmother just found out that she has stage 3 bladder cancer. She is a wonderful woman and we always said that she will live until she is 110y/o. But as we got the news yesterday that may not be an option. I am 20 years old and im looking for another way that she can do without the removal of her bladder. She has one son my dad never smoked or drank a day in her life and she also never had to work a day in her life. So yes this was very unexpected. I am very concerend that if they decide to do the surgery to remove her bladder completely she is going to go down hill from there. Those doctors think that surgery is the only answer and chemo is out of the question in my eyes she is to old. I dont wont to remember my grandmother with a bag of urin hanging off her side. Please let me know if anyone knows any other loop hole. Thanks

bladder cancer treatment depends upon the stage.  In early stage disease a TURB and chemo injected into the bladder is used.  However if the cancer has invaded the bladder wall then surgery is the only treatment that will work.  Dont worry so much, she should do fine with the surgery and an artificial bladder may be possible.

My father was 70 when he was diagnosed with bladder cancer and underwent removal of his bladder.  We were sitting at his home one day, he reached down to feel his urostomy bag to see if it needed to be emptied and stated "what a way to live."  My mother  looked at him, smiled and stated to him "sure beats the alternative."  He would have died if he had not agreed to live with "bag of urine" hanging on his side.  That was four years ago, unfortunately my mother passed away from primary peritoneal cancer earlier this year and though his life has changed, we would not trade that bag of urine for one day without him.