Nancy,
Thank you for your update. I am sorry to hear that your husband is having pain in his bone from Tarceva. Right now, we are trying the alternative medicine route. I want to share w/ you some of the stuff I researched and did a lot of reading about, and maybe you can read about it online and see if it will help your husband w/ the pain...first, Noni juice, which claimed it contains plenty of antioxidants and is anti-cancer as well as help w/ arthritis pain, etc. The other things we are trying is Essiac tea (from Flor-essence), Reishi mushroom pill, Co-enzyme Q10, and Bee Propolis.
Read about those supplements and discuss w/ your doctor, and maybe some can help w/ the side effects.
Take care, Nancy.