Need Info....Please Help

Hi,

My boyfriend just told me that he has stomach cancer & intestinal cancer. He told me he found out a year ago. He has had no treatment. He has been acting very odd over the last month and I'm beginning to wonder if this is just a lie to cover up something else. If so, it's an awful thing to tell someone. I really don't know what to believe. I don't know anything about these types of cancer. If you're diagnosed that long ago with no treatment, can you still be fine? I guess I'm wondering how quick someone would die without treatment. If in fact this could be true, is it too late for treatment? Also, with treatment, what is the survival rate?

Thank you....

Hi -

Recently, in our town there was a guy who lied about having cancer for a year or so; even going so far as to shave his head and tell people he was having chemo.  He accepted money from all sorts of people and was ultimately charged and convicted of fraud.  So, as implausable as it may seem, is possible your boyfriend is lying.  You might consider telling him you want to better understand his condition and would like to go with him to his next doctor appointment. His response should tell you a lot.

Good luck.

Susan 

 

   

Hi,

I just heard from a friend that his friend was telling people he had cancer just for attention. I think from women. He is completely fine. I just can't believe that someone could lie about such a horrible thing. Since he's told me, he hasn't mentioned it once, neither have I. What I find odd is that he talks about things he's going to do in the future. He never talks about getting help. He did mention that after the holidays he'd look into it. Sounds fishy to me. I've caught him in several other lie's, so I'm starting to think this one is as well. Do you happen to know how aggressive stomach/intestinal cancer is? Would he still be fine or even alive after a year of knowing without treatment? I like your idea of having him explain it to me better and ask to go to his next doctors appointment. I think I won't get anywhere with that though because he'll say he doesn't see the doctor because he doesn't have insurance. Same reason he hasn't gotten help. This whole situation is very frustrating and upsetting! Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it.

Lying about having cancer is pretty low!!!!  If he is lying to you about that what else would he lie about.  This guy sounds like he needs help.  If he needs to have people think he has cancer it must be for the attention that he thinks he will get.  That is very S-I-C-K  in the head not in the stomach.  Make him an appointment with a doctor and then take him.  You may have to pay for it but at least you will know the truth and he will know you have seen thru him.  I have a feeling it won't even cost you a doctors visit because he will not go because there is nothing to find.

Give me about 5 minutes with this scum alone.  I'll make him WISH he had cancer instead of lying about it..

stomach cancer is a bad one.  Surgery is the treatment in early stages but most is not caught early.  You wouldnt do nothing for a whole year.  My advice is simple...find a new boyfriend.

Hi,

I totally agree. I'm just trying to get to the bottom of a few other things. I do find it very hard to believe that this is true. You just don't let something like that go. He said he had 2 years to live. It's been 1. He talks so much about future things, that's really frustrating. He is on his way out. I just have some unfinished business with him...financially, and he will be gone!

Thank you....

Yes please, no chance you live in Michigan? I'm really hurt by all of this I'm trying so hard to understand why he's done it. I really think he's trying to cover up some horrible things he did behind my back and this is some type of diversion. Trying to make me forget that and feel so bad for him now. What a joke! I am just trying to tie up some loose ends and he will be gone. I am just about at the end of a terrible divorce and he was like my savior in a way. Now he's nothing but a liar and hurt me worse than this whole divorce process. yes, SCUM!!!!! I'd like to know what will happen when he tells me he's been cured without treatment! What a miracle that will be!

Thank you.....

 

Exactly, what else is he lying about? I think many, many things. That hurts the most. His own best friend doesn't even believe it. He said not to tell anyone because he doesn't want anyone to know. He just wants to die and have that be that. What's really sad is he has 5 kids that need him. True, lie, don't know, but if you have children, you'd do whatever it took to try to save your life for them. At least I would anyway. I can't believe that I felt so bad for him when he told me. Ironically he told me the same night he told me he had the opportunity to go home with someone he met at the bar. He said he didn't because he thought of me and couldn't go through with it. He did get a nice hickey out of it though. Yeah, like nothing happened! Keep in mind I was having a miscarriage at the time of all of this. He didn't ask me once if I was okay. Wasn't even with me when it was happening. Too busy! He went and did his own thing and came back with he had cancer. All about him, all about trying to get himself out a bad situation he caused. I'm sure many cancer patients and survivors would be furious with someone like him. Makes me so sick! So immature, complusive liar, needs help big time. I can't believe I fell for all of this!

Thank you....

Just a fact that you suspect is a bad signal. I was so sad, but reading this made me mad, that is much better feeling than beeing sad.I just found this page today and for the first time in 3 years I see that I'm not alone in my dispearte condition and then to think that someone could lie about this!!! I mean what sort of person you must be!? This is unforgivable!