Hi,
My wife was diagnosed with Renal Cell Carcinoma on 10/23/07. The doctors found a mass that was almost 9cm, still contained within the sac of the kidney. They opted to do surgery within the next week. Although it was the last thing we wanted to hear the C word, it was really a relief that they had removed it. She was very fortunate to have had one of the top Nephrologist do the procedure. He actully did a nephrectomy using only 4 holes and a 4" incision to remove the kidney. His name is Dr. Patrik Patel here in Arizona. Her recovery time was about 10 days, she did very well with the surgery. Doing the surgery the old way would have been a very lengthy recovery time and with your situation with kids, would put more stress on you. Talk to your Dr. about it and his experience with it. If not you may want to call our Dr. and see if there is anyone in your area he would recomend to do the procedure.
They told us that this type of cancer is a very slow moving type. The sooner they can take out the mass and keep it's size to a minimum the better your prognosis will be. Give yourself every opportunity to keep ahead of this tumor. I know I have said the C word a few times already, keep in mind I am speaking only from my wife's experience. We were told that they could not verify this until a pathology had been done on the mass. We were also told that they do NOT do biopsis on the kidney because of the propensity to bleed and they want to keep it contained as much as possible.
I wish you the best and please feel free to contact us if you have any further questions. We are by no means experts, but we can give you our feedback on what we've experienced. We are still looking for more information ourselves, it's a scary time, but you have to believe that you will get better, keep a very positive attitude about it. There are more people out there than you think going through this. Get support through your family and friends, ask for their prayers and support. The less you have to stress about with your children the easier it will be for you to get through this time.
We will pray for you.