To all of you looking for answers I pray for you, God Really works in mysterious ways and I trust he will help each of you. I was on this site looking for answers some months ago, It was great to read and communicate with some of you, But as we all know This type of Cancer is aweful. If caught in the first stages you are the very lucky very few. My mother was told back in January 2007 she had stage 3 Bile duct cancer and that operating was not possible, the doctors never gave us alot of answers or possibilities of this cancer, I had to research myself and found that my Mother only had a 6 -12 month survival. She went through the Chemo treatments so bravely never complaining. She Is a true Hero and never gave up. She told us all she put it in the Lords hands and what ever God had in store for her she would except it. September 30th I was staying at my parents for the weekend as I always did, I lived about an hour away and visited often, sometimes 2 -3 times a week. On that Morning My Father woke me up around 7am and said we needed to get my Mom to the Hospital because she was in pain. We had to call an ambulence and we got her there in a matter of moments, We thought perhaps her pain pills were not working as well and they may have to increase them. Monday afternoon The Doctor came in and Told My Mother and Us that the Cancer was out of control and the Tumor was larger than ever and there was nothing else they could do except keep her comfortable with pain medicine. My Mother so Bravely asked the doctor " So they can't treat this any more ? there is nothing else to be done?" The doctor replied no I am sorry you may have a couple of weeks maybe a month. my Mother said "well, I did not need to hear that but OK. So when do I get to go home?" he said in a few days once we get the pain under control... She had total kidney failure that week, I stayed with her in the room night and day and watched over her and help her with anything I could. They let my Mom go home on Friday with the help of Hospis... She got home around 1:30 Friday afternoon, and Family and friends dropped by all day and night as they did at the hospital. Saturday Morning Around 7:30am my Mother was sleeping after a Horrible night from Midnight to 6am of Bile coming up and fluid building on her lungs It was absolutely terrible. She then rested and at 7:30 I sat next to her and re-arranged the pillows behind her to make her more comfortable I gave her a Kiss and told her I loved her around 8:17am I sat and held her hand she opened her eyes and looked at her sister and I. We told her it is okay you can go home now and we all love you. Everything will be ok, She took 3 more long breaths passed on. I gentley lowered the head of the bed and closed her eyes and laid her hands together. Then cried, My Mother died it was the most Horrible and Beautiful moment of my life. It has been hard to get here to the web site to post this. But I want any one that is going thru this to know. Spend as much time as possible with your loved ones you will never regret it, nothing else in life is as important than being there for them when they need you the most. I will never get over loosing my Mother at such a young age, She was only 58 in May of this year and We had a 41st Wedding Anniversary for her and my Father August 14th. I will cherrish these moments always until I see her again in heaven myself. The hardest thing to deal with is My Father was fighting Lung Cancer the Year Before, He found out in January that his cancer was in remition, My Mother found out the very next day she had Bile duct cancer... I may never understand why both of them had to go thru this but it is a Blessing My Father is still doing good and his cancer has not returned. ANd it was a Blessing to be there for my Mother in her last days and all of the family and friends that gathered around. May God be with each and everyone of you going thru this and I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless...
Michael