The English Are Not Good At Showing Their Feelings Or Are They?

Hello,

I'm quite new to this site.  I'm in the UK and I care for my wife who has ovarian cancer (but no ovaries which is quite a clever trick don't you think!). Anyway if there's anyone out there who fancies a chat, then post me...

I had a thread on Macmillan for a while but it got broken, take a look here...

 http://share.macmillan.org.uk/share/Forums/Default.aspx?topi

but there's no need to read that if you're busy.

Today Porkie (wife) had her three-weekly appointment with the oncologist and it was emotional and rather unsatifactory.  She came home tonight and we discussed her condition (which is not good).  She talks about getting through this round of treatment and wondering when the next one will be; 12 months, 2 years etc..

I know it's the last one for her and I'm therefore carrying a guilty secret which makes me unhappy.  Porkie's fine though so no worries I guess.

So that does not sound too good but on the other hand, she's not in any pain and we have two great kids (Scooter and Tadpole) who we both love a lot.  We are hoping to go away together sometime soon.  I have it in mind to ask the boys' school for some time off.  Anyway tried that?  I was planning to go to the Grand Canyon but i think that's too complicated.  Maybe we'll go to Woolacombe in Devon (cold but great surfing).

So I think if you carry a secret and/or fancy a chat you should post me.  I do not bite and I'm quite a good listener.  I do suffer from a typical male problem of trying to fix every problem that's set, but we can ignore that.

David

Hello Tadpole,

                 I have just read your postings on this site and the Macmillan site. This whole cancer thing is just terrible. My husband was buried christmas eve after a 5 1/2 month battle with a brain tumour. Not nice I can tell you. We have 6 children aged 8-15 who we have been homeschooling therefore they have been very involved in their Dad's care the last months. We had him at home till the end, it was very much a family affair.

  My husband and I had been separated for over 12 months prior to the diagnose but he had made a commitment to work at it again .

 I hope you are coping ok, I assume you will have had lots of responses to your post. Just take it day by day.

 Lab-lady.

Na, didn't get a single reply!

Sorry to hear about your fella.  I was trying out Cancer Compass because my thread at Mac got broken but no one got back to me so I hled my breath as long as I could and ended up going back to Mac (as you might be able to tell!).  Anyway I don't post anything about myself now, I just try and help other people.

I've had a rough time with Porkie over the last couple of weeks; she is a bit ill but I'm very tired which does not make a good mix...

I am sorry about your story.  How do you feel now?

Thanks again for the posting.

 David

Hi there,

First of all Happy New Year!

Next... I can't work this web site you know...  I'm sure I sent you another posting but i can't find it this morning.  So anyway sorry if I'm repeating myself.

Your story is amazing, I'm sure that the detail is even more so.  I'm struggling with Kim at the moment, it's a complicated story but I guess you've been down this road yourself so I won't bore you with it.

 I hope you get this message and I'm sorry that I'm a bit dumb with this web site.

David.

On 11/27/2007 Was tadpole, now frog... wrote:

Hello,

I'm quite new to this site.  I'm in the UK and I care for my wife who has ovarian cancer (but no ovaries which is quite a clever trick don't you think!). Anyway if there's anyone out there who fancies a chat, then post me...

I had a thread on Macmillan for a while but it got broken, take a look here...

 http://share.macmillan.org.uk/share/Forums/Default.aspx?topi

but there's no need to read that if you're busy.

Today Porkie (wife) had her three-weekly appointment with the oncologist and it was emotional and rather unsatifactory.  She came home tonight and we discussed her condition (which is not good).  She talks about getting through this round of treatment and wondering when the next one will be; 12 months, 2 years etc..

I know it's the last one for her and I'm therefore carrying a guilty secret which makes me unhappy.  Porkie's fine though so no worries I guess.

So that does not sound too good but on the other hand, she's not in any pain and we have two great kids (Scooter and Tadpole) who we both love a lot.  We are hoping to go away together sometime soon.  I have it in mind to ask the boys' school for some time off.  Anyway tried that?  I was planning to go to the Grand Canyon but i think that's too complicated.  Maybe we'll go to Woolacombe in Devon (cold but great surfing).

So I think if you carry a secret and/or fancy a chat you should post me.  I do not bite and I'm quite a good listener.  I do suffer from a typical male problem of trying to fix every problem that's set, but we can ignore that.

David

hi  my best friend, in her last days, is being cared for at home by her husband and adult children.  she was dx with 3-c ovarian cancer 2 1/2 years ago.  i love her and i have learned a lot. 

em