I Have Just Lost My 24 Yr. Old Daughter To Colon Cancer

Hello,
My name is Dana and I just lost my 24 yr old daughter to colon cancer. I am so lost and lonely. I am scared I can't overcome this feeling of emptyness. She passed away March 20th, 05.
If anyone could help me on how to go on from this moment. Any words of help would be appreciated. Thanks Dana

Good morning you need to get in with some Support group so you have a way to go. We all feel different when some thing bad happens to us but believe in God and the way will come to you .My wife has a GBM 4 and we take each day and live it. There is a lot of help out there just look for it and people will come to you. I will find some listing for you and get back with them.

Mike B

Dana: I am writing this from India. I am nearly 60 years old. Twenty five years ago my son, who was only 4 at that time, went for minor surgery for an adenoid in his nose - doctors said that it was a ten minute minor operation. But the anasthetist wrongly administered too much anasthesia and my son, whose operation was successful did not recover consciousness! It was, as you can imagine a terrible personal blow.

Twenty five years later as I read your message I can feel the pain once again. To see a child grow into a beautiful woman, full of life and with a bright future, and to suddenly lose her, is very very sad.

Hindu scriptures say that the body is like a shirt which we take off and wear another one. The soul is permanent, 'atman'as it is called, and is immortal.

So console yourself and pray as I do pray for you from so far away.

Best Wishes

Rajan
New Delhi
India

Thank You for your reply about my daughter passing. I am sorry to here about your Son. I am still in disbelief that she is gone. I am having so much trouble dealing with the question of is she ok and happy. She left behind a 7 year old son. I have him now. Thank God. I can't get past the thought that she is so sad because she had to leave him. She fought so hard to stay here for him. But the final decission was not up to her. I wished I knew how to get past the feeling of thinking she is not happy now. Do you believe in signs? I really need one. Again thanks for your reply. Dana

It has been 8 months since I lost my 24 yr old younger sister to a Brain Tumor and I still find it hard to come to terms with it. I cannot say I know what you are going through as a parent, but I do know that one cannot compare the measure of loss from one to another. I look normal now and carry on like normal but there is nothing normal about the way I feel. Life has lost all purpose to me. I struggle to make sense of life's meaning. I try looking for signs from her and am desperately hoping and wanting to believe that there is a better place where she is happy and finally without pain. I try to imagine this place and so badly want it to be true. I worry that she's unhappy or sad and thinks that she was made to suffer and that she was taken away despite putting up a brave fight. I think I am living with the hope that I will see her again and that she will tell me that she had been happy in that place wherever it is. I feel for all those who have lost their loved ones and wish you strength. I miss her terribly and hope I will find her again.