tbtahoe,
So sorry you had to join this club, there are definately better ones to join, but welcome to the battle. My partner, 62 yo, was diagnosed with stage IV stomach cancer 02/07 after losing 50 pounds. Surgery was scheduled to remove the entire stomach, however, laproscope was done prior to gastrectomy and it showed the cancer had already penetrated the 5 layers of the stomach and was floating in the abdomen. They did not remove the stomach. Not any reason to remove it at that point. They inserted a J-tube, for use down the road to deal with bile backup and vomiting, and we went home. Fortunately, the J-tube fell out about a month later. He hated it. We started doing the same Oxaliplatin, Eprirubicin, Xeloda regimen that you are doing, in April of last year. Have had continuous treatments since, every three to four weeks, depending on blood counts. All CT scans since have come up clean. With lots of butter, cream, high calorie foods, he has put back 28 pounds and is looking and feeling great. (I, as the excellent supporting partner, have managed to put on 28 pounds. Isn't that special). We have been able to travel just about every three weeks, in between chemo treatments. Side effects seem to mainly be from the Xeloda, neuropathy in the hands and sensitivity to cold in the throat for about a week after infusion.
Truly, we were apprehensive about even starting chemotherapy after all the horror stories, but it has been a BLESSING for us. We are hitting the one year mark of diagnosis in two weeks. We have celebrated birthdays, our 24th anniversary, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and everyday in between. These are all days we thought were gone. Each and every one is a blessing. We have had excellent "Quality of Life" since we started this journey. We know the end will come at some point, but in the meatime, why not enjoy the ride?
God bless you and your husband and your friends and families. Make the best of each day, and if he is half the fighter of my spouse, you will have many days left to enjoy. Hang in there, spring is coming soon.
Prayers to you both,
Scott