My Father Passed Away On Sunday

My father was diagnosed with adenocarcinoma only 1 month ago. It spread to his lungs very fast and finally his liver. The chemo (Gemzar) did not work for him. My dad was 78 and a hero. He wanted to live. He went into unconsciousness on Saturday and died peacefully. I miss him deeply and not sure how to deal with his loss. It is very painful. I was with him when he went into unconsciousness and told him how much I love him. I told him he was my hero and tears came out of his eyes. He even opened his eyes when I spoke to him and he tried to say I love you too. I will never forget it.
Hopefully oneday they will find a cure.

Thank everyone for your support.

I am so sorry for your loss.  Your father was so fortunate to
have you to care for him.  I do remember you when you first posted
searching for any information that would help you to assist your father
with PC. I will pray for you during this difficult time.

 

Takecaare,

Janice 

I am so sorry for your loss.  My husband, age 66, died on Thursday, Jan. 17.  Our children and I were with him, were able to tell him we loved him and felt honored that we could take good care of him at the end.  It sounds like you also made your father feel loved at the end.  What more could anyone wish for... to have a loving family with you at the end of your life...you did the right thing.  Not everyone has the opportunity to tell their loved ones how they feel before they die.  Your father was so fortunate to feel that love.

Sharing you loss,

Jan 

 

Torontogal,

My prayers are with you.  I know how much pain you are carrying in your heart.  I still have it in mine three weeks after my dad's passing.  We were both fortunate to have been able to care for our dads through their last moments.  I remember responding to your inquiries initially and was wondering how you and your dad were doing.

Stay strong....

Always,

Geri

Janine,

My condolences to you and your children.  I lost my dad to PanCan on 01.04.08 and my heart is still heavy from the pain.  My Mom is still inconsolable.  She and Dad celebrated their 40th wedding anniv on Dec. 16.  I was fortunate to have been there to assist in the care of my dad towards the end.  I was able to tell him how much I loved him right before he passed.  I'm sure your children feel the same way.  Again, my sympathy to you and yours.

Always,

Geri 

 

Thanks everyone for all your kind words and support.

I was reading my 1st post on this board only 1 month ago. I had so much hope then and after 1 month of diagnosis - I am mourning my father's death. I still cannot believe it and miss him dearly.

The cancer started in his pancreas and moved to his lungs. It then went to his liver and kidneys. He went into a diabetic coma. I remember screaming at the nurses to stop staring at him but to get a doctor. I even pressed the blue emergency button on the wall. The nurse said to me (in a calm voice) "honey..you need to let go.." His body was shutting down. She told me that he could hear me. I told him he is my hero, I love him, he will forever be in my heart, etc. He even opened his eyes and tried to say I love you too.

I am missing my dad and cannot stop thinking about him. I pray he is in a better place. I am looking into grief counselling as I cannot stop crying and cannot imagine life without dad.

Hi Torontogal,

 I am just reading your messages now about the passing of your father. Please accept my deepest sympathy and condolensces to you and your family. Are you in Toronto? I am on the East Coast and I lost my father to PC on Oct.14 of last year, just 6 weeks after his diagnosis.  I know what you are going through, trust me. I still lay in bed at night and cry missing my dad so much and begging God to let me see him and know he is o.k. It is horrible thing to loose a parent too, and when it happens so fast, you are just left in dust afterwards to deal with everything. Sometimes I just sit and think, did that all really happen last fall? Life is so unfair sometimes. Have you checked out www.craigscause.ca? It is an excellent website here in Canada with alot of helpful information and stories.  My dad's story is on there, his name was Daniel.

I will keep you in my prayers and hope that you are doing o.k.

 

  I lost my father January 3.  I miss him terribly and so does my mother.  We cry when we need to (often) and then we go on living and loving.  I have children and grandchildren, my mother has grand children and great grand children and my mother has me.  I reminded her that I very much needed her and she will have to stick around here just to be my friend. I think that has helped her.

  Dad wouldn't want it any other way.

  May God grant you peace in the midst of your suffering.

   Vicki
 

 

  
 

I am so sorry to hear of your family's loss but just remember he is and always will be with you.  I lost my grandmother 9 years ago from cancer and my father 5 years ago at the age of 49 and was a shock didnt even now anything was wrong with him, had just come home from finding out he was diabetic.  My husband is also in the hospital dealing with his cancer and can not keep his weight up with g-tube so he can not even start his treatments.  I feel your pain and just reading your story brought me to tears and I am terribly affraid I am going to lose my husband soon and we have 6 children, 4 of them are 5 and under and have no idea how to explain to them what is going on.  This board is GREAT for support and help and we are all here for you.  I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

 

Christina

I lost my father 10 years ago.  It was not due to cancer, but it the illness was unexpected.  The grief was overwhelming, and it did take a long time to recover, but eventually you go on....NOW my younger brother, only 48 years old has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.  He is having chemo...with upcoming radiation....fortunately he is in a clinical trial....but the odds are not good at all.  I am consumed with this illness...spend countless hours reseaching.....posting messages.....trying my very best to offer some sort of hope and suggestions....I am not an overly religious person, but recently have been given a little book with the much seen and heard phrase,"Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."  It makes me SO mad to think I cannot change things...and try as I might....I am not making this cancer go away!!!!......so I just keep reading this phrase.....and hope and pray that I can learn to accept the things that I cannot change....................