Supporting The Sick

My dad has RCC that has spread to his lungs.  He is on his first round of Sutent.  He is a very quiet person and I don't know what he's thinking or what to say/do.  He is an amazing grandpa, but he's distancing himself from the grandkids.  That was always what I used to cheer him up.  I am trying to stay positive myself that the Sutent will work, but every trip to the oncologist just always brings more bad news.  Other than hugging him and spending time with him, what can I do?  He has never been one to express feelings and all he seems to want to do is watch tv all day now.  I would love some suggestions from someone with some experience at this.

Hi there DaddysGirl,

        I know how you feel my father is alot like you explain your father is.

It is extremely hard to talk about this with them although we do not want them to fight it alone. I have felt that my father kept alot in side when he was first diagnosed. We walked on eggshells. We really didnt want to bring it up unless he did. Then I think he went through a depression. In which he still does from time to time. Did your father just get diagnosed ?

My father has been going through this now for over two years. We have had some ups and downs but thats to be expected. I just try to keep him in good spirits and talk about things when he wants to talk. I know that it is a shock to there system. My father seem to go through a few different stages emotionally after being diagnosed. Its not easy I'm sure.

I am hear if you need to talk.

Lilsis

 

2/23/08  RIP  Dear friend !! 

I will promise to be here for you if need be.

All are in my prayers.

Wendy