Just as I was logging on to this site as I always do before I go to bed, I prayed as usual with my rosery, I cried, and then got a phone call. My sister- my brother is over there and had just called my mom crying-yelling and deeply angry about her not fighting. She was dx cervical cancer stage IV-in nov.07. She did one round of treatment and is opting for no more. I tried to convince her to other treatments-but she has decided not to. My brother is not handling it well, as we all are not handling it well. But, the problem is he is a drinker, he just turned 30 has 4 boys and drinks like they claim the Irish do. He only talks about his feelings when he is drinking. I had called him tonight about something I had to ask him. But he started talking about destiny and evolution. Asking what I believe-do I believe in God. Well I can't belive he called my Mom at this hour. So sad, and angry talking to her. My sister had no idea what to do. I told her to comfort him. My brother wanted to go to my moms, he wanted her to hold him-she said not to come over. I do not know if I believe in evoluton and I do not believe God chooses our destiny-God did not give us cancer-he can only help us through the journey. Please I am asking everyone on this board to say a prayer for my mom Pam and my family going through this. As I always think of all of you please my for us tonight. Thank You. Dani