Lost My Dad In June

My dad was diagnosed with cancer on June 1st of 2007 and we lost him on June 23rd. Not a day goes by that i dont' wonder if there is something I could've done to save him.

I miss him more than I ever thought physically or emotionally I could ever miss a human being. I feel robbed by this cancer and robbed by how fast it all went down.

Some days, I'm not sure what I can do to feel better.

On 2/11/2008 nyazgirl wrote:

My dad was diagnosed with cancer on June 1st of 2007 and we lost him on June 23rd. Not a day goes by that i dont' wonder if there is something I could've done to save him.

I miss him more than I ever thought physically or emotionally I could ever miss a human being. I feel robbed by this cancer and robbed by how fast it all went down.

Some days, I'm not sure what I can do to feel better.

Dear NYazgirl,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. You didn't really have to time to get used to the idea of your dad having cancer before you lost him.

My dad was dx with Stage IV cancer Dec. 18, 2007. Since that time we have had several bumps in the road and some very scary moments. He is very, very sick. I usually handle things ok during the day because I am so busy. But at night when I am washing clothes, or doing other mundane chores the knowledge that I may lose him very soon hits me so hard that I feel like I can't breathe. As horrible as this is for me, it doesn't come close to the pain you're feeling. I can only empathize with you and pray for you. I wish I could do more.

I friend of mine that lost her dad to cancer about 5 years ago told me that the pain doesn't go away or lessen, it just gets easier to deal with the grief with time.

I wish comfort and peace for you.

Hi nyazgirl,

I unfortunately have some understanding of what you are going through (you too, georgesgirl) My Dad was diagnosed in May, and passed away on Dec.21st.  I at least had on opportunity to spend some real quality time with him, something you were robbed of.  I was also very integral in his homecare, something you were maybe spared.

I understand everything you wrote.  There are days that I don't think I can face, and even days that I don't.  And it's true - sometimes you just can't feel better.  But then there are days that you can remember with a smile.  Focus on the moments that mean the most. They may also make you cry, and that's OK too.  Use your greif as a tool, to remind yourself that life is too short.  Leave no words unspoken, and no goal unattempted.  We never do know what lies ahead...

You must realize that there was nothing you could do, but the love you obviously have for him was certainly enough to lend some comfort.  My Dad said often that the love of his family was sometimes what got him through the day.  I'm sure your Dad would've said the same.

Take good care or yourself, and know that greif is part of the process.  We're all only human afterall. 

Love and Peace to you and your family

Kylie

On 2/11/2008 nyazgirl wrote:

My dad was diagnosed with cancer on June 1st of 2007 and we lost him on June 23rd. Not a day goes by that i dont' wonder if there is something I could've done to save him.

I miss him more than I ever thought physically or emotionally I could ever miss a human being. I feel robbed by this cancer and robbed by how fast it all went down.

Some days, I'm not sure what I can do to feel better.

my daughters also lost there wonderful dad, and there pain is my pain and for the mother of our two beautiful daughters we had togeather ,is my blessing, there are good and bad days, and you need to focus on his life he had, and what he love to do, we keep pictures around,and talk about what happen, with each other , this is our healing.I look at my beautiful daughters, and I tell him thank you.Your dad will always be around you when you least expect it, my daughters and I have had many signs, be strong, and keep your dad alive in your heart