My Husband Died

May God bless you and your family in the coming days with his peace and comfort.

Take care,

Janice 

On 2/21/2008 clearmare wrote:

My beloved Al lost his battle Feb. 19.  He lived for  7 months since diagnosis.  In one week's time he went downhill very quickly.  He was on oxygen in the hospital and pumped up with pain killers.  I'm happy for him that he's out of pain and in a better place now, but I miss him terribly.  I never knew what real heartbreak was before this.

My prayers are with you.My husband has kidney cancer,he is 50.It has being three years.So far so he is doing good Thanks To God!! But still I think about it every day and It scares me to see life without my husband.I also hate to see my husband in pain.So tonite you will be in my prayers.Keep in touch.I will post{ a hello} just to see how you are doing.

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On 2/21/2008 clearmare wrote:

My beloved Al lost his battle Feb. 19.  He lived for  7 months since diagnosis.  In one week's time he went downhill very quickly.  He was on oxygen in the hospital and pumped up with pain killers.  I'm happy for him that he's out of pain and in a better place now, but I miss him terribly.  I never knew what real heartbreak was before this.

God bless you with a comfort unknown to you before. My heart goes out to you.

Blessings,

my sister's voice

eaglessoar

So sorry to hear about your husband, my heart goes out to you and your family . My father was diagnosed in May of 07 and died in Oct. There really are no words to comfort you. You absolutely feel heartbroken in the worst way. Hopefully it helps to know you are not alone. Greif is a process and everyone tells me it wont be as sharp after a while but the first year is the worst. This is the most horrible disease and we have to continue to do everything to fight it.

Again my heart goes out to you. God will help you get through it.

Cherylynne

I am sorry for your loss.  I lost my mom 69 days ago from pancreatic cancer.  She sufferred terribly.  We were glad that her suffering ended and did not realize how our suffering was beginning.  Our lives are so empty w/out her.  I constantly think of her.  I do not cry everyday anymore.  Its a very difficult journey to watch your loved one suffer from this disease and then they are gone.  We are fortunate we have our memories, our photos and lots of video tapes of her --which my kids watch.  At first my brother would call me and he actually laughed--i was so mad at him.  I said how can you even smile, let alone laugh, he told me mom is not suffering anymore and that makes me happy.  His words really helped me.  And i hope they help you.  My mom was only 63 yrs old. 

Some days I am actually jealous of my friends because they dont realize how lucky they are to have their mom.  No one knows how you feel, unless you go through this.  My therapy was keeping extremely busy and at night --it was hard and i would cry and cry.  Its no easy, but life does go on.  Some days/weeks i feel like i am just existing.  Surround yourself with your loved ones and celebrate your husband life and memories.   

my deepest sympathy to you both. kelly, i lost my mom 10 years ago, like you, it was devastating for me, she was 73. i cried long and hard for my mom, and went to her grave weekly for the first couple years, mother's day was awful for me. so i know the pain you are feeling. the crying and grieving for me was a necessary part to be able to live with out her. so grieve as long as you have to, my dear, its ok to do that. it honors her memory, and what she meant to you! it does get better, but they is always in our hearts, and we cherish the memories we had. every one grieves different. its personal, and done out of love. you will be ok, its very raw for you and oh so early, so  be kind to yourself, and remember tears are healing in their own way, love, and prayers, marlene

May a peace that passes understanding be with you and your loved ones.

Catherine 

I am so sorry. It seems true that only those having experienced this can really come even close, within a light year of miles, to understanding what you are experiencing now.  My wife passed on 1/26/08 fro PC.  It was a 13 month battle for every inch of ground.  I thank God for giving us to one another and thank Him that He  placed her in my hands to care for her.  Wedding vows were kept .. for better and for worse...and nothing remained unsaid or undone.  She's now well, but we survivors of PC suffer from the sudden loneliness. Just befor my passed on someone told me that "they keep making tomorrows".  I saw her sick for so long that my memories are of her being sick... healthy seems so long ago.  It's now about 5 weeks and my mind is beginning to briefly recall our healthy past and life together.  Embrace your sorrow... sounds strange, but it'll keep your mind healthy.  We just need to be as determined to live tomorrow as we were in helping our spouses.  That may be, in the end, the best way of honoring their memories.

I have not been on the site in a few weeks.  I just saw your post.  I am so, so sorry to hear of your husband's passing.  I can not imagine how deep your pain is.  This damn cancer is a horrible thing and it hurts everyone it touches.  I pray that he was not in too much pain at the end.  I am sure he felt your love.

 With my mom livng with stage 4 lung cancer, I know the pain I am in and I want to fight tooth and nail to not endure the pain you are feeling now.

Damn cancer!