Hello Waunema, hope you're doing ok.
I am 38. Was diagnosed with cancer when I was 35. Was originally being treated for Endometriosis by my gynaecologist. Wherever I had "clumps" of endometriosis, there grew the cancer! 4 primary tumors. 1 in my uterus, 1 in my ovary and 2 on the back of my uterus growing into my rectum. I had period type pains all the time, bleeding, gunge pouring out of me and rectal pains that got really bad the last 4 weeks before it all got discovered. I don't have any children, but wasn't planning on having any, so not too sad about that and I definitely don't miss my periods!
Its been about 7 weeks now since my ileostomy reversal. Still feeling quite crappy...ha-ha! Seem to have constipation most of the time. It feels like I'm sh---ing bricks...no joke! Was awake till 3am last night, my rectum felt like it might burst open. It is so tiring feeling like you need the toilet all the time. My shoulders and neck are aching from the stress of it all and don't really feel like i get any proper sleep. I don't know what its like to have contractions (as in giving birth) but I too have abdominal contractions nearly every time I go to the toilet. I am trying to drink more water and I eat Bran Flakes! Though sometimes I think that Bran actually bungs me up! I should do some exercise really, but I'm chronically lazy. I spend far too much time sitting down and traveling everywhere on buses or in taxis.I was far more active when I was a child. The older I get the lazier I get.
Am hoping to get a new complimentary therapist recommended by my cancer support group. So am looking forward to that. You should definitely try it. I have been using C.T for the last 4 years since before I had cancer. Was using it to ease period pains and get rid of stress and it worked for me. I highly recommend reflexology, indian head massage and aromatherapy. Any sort of massage is good for you, it helps you relax...which can only be a good thing when you get told you have cancer and have to endure all the treatment!
I have something called a RADAR key which enables me to get into disabled public toilets. They are sometimes more pleasant than the normal public toilets in this country.
I have been able to get out and about ok now. I went to Manchester city centre with some friends to look round the shops. Was still worried about where the nearest public toilet was though! Thankfully I discovered some in an area where I never knew there was any. But it's not much fun always wondering where the toilets are every time you go out.
I went out today to a big posh garden centre/shopping complex to attend my cancer support group comittee meeting. I am the new assistant secretary!
I didn't discover my support group until I'd nearly finished my chemo. I could have done with it right from the beginning, especially to help me cope with my parents. My dad has not coped very well with me having cancer. We had our worst arguments when I was in hospital having my first operation.
I hope you are in a support group! Not everyone likes to be in a support group but I have definitely benefited from being in one.
My belly looks a mess at the moment. 3 big scars and I look like Ive got a hernia! I will go and see my doctor next week just to make sure I haven't really got one. It looked ok when I had my colostomy, it only went this funny shape after I had the ileostomy. It went even worse after the reversal. Don't think I'll ever be a bikini model ha-ha!
Bye for now.
Kay