Frant:
I understand the anxiety thing. Psa is a godsend for diagnosis and a devil for maintenance. A recurrence at his distance in time from surgery suggests that this could be a local condition and amenable to radiation. You are working with an oncologist, a good sign. His Gleason included a G4, he had close to the margin resection, significant tumor volume, and there was extracapsular extension. These are worrisome for recurrence, as he now appears to display. The radiation dose for salvage treatment is not usually as much as that used for primary treatment. Therefore, the side effects tend to be less. With his irritable bowel (IBS?) this may not be as difficult as he fears. No one can say for certain. The side effects of radiation tend to manifest months, or years, later in time with sexual issues and continence involved. If he is fully continent at this remove from surgery, this may be less of an issue. He may wait, a bit, to determine his doubling time, which will show what limits the disease will put on his schedule for this decision. Generally, the earlier in the recurrence salvage treatment is undertaken the better the results are. Certainly no later than 0.5, if at all possible. Your level of 0.2 is a good one. There is some evidence that men in his condition have disease that remains loco-regional for a time. How long? That is the magic question. In this situation men are lucky for such a clear marker as psa. All other cancer survivors would do anything for such a significant marker.
I agree with the previous poster that age is part of the calculation of risk versus benefit. If he is less than 65 he has a lot of living to do and a treatment that will perhaps delay the recurrence, even if it does not cure, could be a significant advantage.
These questions are ones that men often have to face. Recurrence is a shattering experience that too many men must deal with. A visit to a radiologist, and meeting with his local Prostate Cancer Support Group will give much more information, and in the case of the group, might allay fears and provide a chance for some confidence.
Let us know how things go.
Please let us know how it goes!