I hope you will receive this reply.
I just read your message and hope that I can give you some hope. I understand the fright of the situation. My husband was dx 6 years ago with RCC. He had a nephrectomy and several metastatic lymph nodes were removed. Within two weeks he had pneumonia and had to have fluid drained from his lungs. He was on a 10 day IV antibiotic run, part of it in the hospital and part of it was at home where we all learned how to administer the drug and keep the lines clear. He developed "drop foot" right about then. His foot would slap the ground when he walked. It was attributed to the surgery. It was a horrific period of time and I felt like I could hardlly catch my breath before the next thing hit. He was not treated with any drug. Two years later, he had to have surgery to remove several small metastic lymph nodes near the original cancer site. Because of their attachment to the vena cava, he began to bleed and nearly bled to death in the surgery. He participated in a clinical study that did not give results in shrinking the remaining rumors. He went through IL2 treatments following that. Within 6 months, the rumors showed some growth. He began taking Nexavar. Took it for 18 months before it began to not work. He is now on Sutent. He has side effects, but mostly, he has continued to work.
We are 6 years out of the original dx. He has continued to work during this time, has continued an online MBA program,.taken a few trips to Hawaii, seen three of our four sons married, and endured the side effects as an inconvenience in his life. We plan for the future, but live in today. The Lord has blessed us considerably with 6 more years and each day He gives is a gift. As hard as I know it is, don't live in fear and panic. You don't know when the cancer will win, or if it will, so keep living around it. Learn as much as you can and be an advocate.
My best wishes and a prayer are with you.