Loss of my husband

KatyB,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I know you and your sons will cherish every moment you have spent with him. I will keep you all in my prayers

 

Dear Katy, I have just resently joined this forum and have not written until today.  My husband just finished chemo and radiation for esophageal cancer.  He got so sick from the FU5 chemo that they had to lower the dose even though he is in a study.  He was in the hospital for almost a week dehydrated, etc.  lost from 214 to 170 lbs.  What a nasty disease this is.  But he is so optimistic and such a wonderful husband and father to our boys, their wives and the grands.  He is now talking about esophageal surgery.  Did your husband get that far in his battle?  Know I will pray for you dear.  We have great faith in a great God and what else could we lean on?  God Bless You

 

On 3/13/2008 KatyB wrote:

My husband died yesterday morning at home.  He fought hard until the end. Words seem so inadequate to describe how much I love him and miss him.  He was an inspiration to all who knew him.  I am sorry for those of you that are fighting this battle and hope every day doctors and researchers are working to come up with a cure or at least improve the survival rates by detecting the disease earlier.

My sons were here over the past 3 days to help me care for my husband and witnessed much of his end of life struggle.  They are all in shock and doing the best they can to cope with the loss of their father and step-father.  My husband never wanted to put any of us through this. I know we were able to give him some peace in doing this and showed him with our care how much we valued his love and our life together by staying by his side and honoring his wish to die at home.

I wish all of you the strength to get through this and I will continue to hope for miracles!

KatyB

My heart goes out to you and your sons. This disease is the hardest thing to deal with, and I hope and pray your memories of the good times you enjoyed together will eventually wipe away the pain and stress of going thru this difficult time.  My husband Mike is now in hospice at home, after 2 rounds of chemo treatments. He was diagnosed in May 2006 and was given 2 years with treatment. It's almost 2 years now, and he too has fought valliantly, with little complaining.  He too has lost over 100 lbs, and is now on morphine pills and liquid amongst a host of other drugs. Our kitchen counter looks like a pharmacy. The morphine treatment is actually stabilizing his pain situation.

We don't understand why this sort of thing happens, but know in our hearts that eventually the Lord will triumph over the beast!  My prayers are with you. 

Was your husband an Agent Orange Vietnam Vet?  My husband was in Vietnam 1968-70, and we recently had an appeal denied again from the VA for service connection to this cancer. I plan on appealing again later -- right now I'm concentrating on our remaining time together.

 Love and Hugs to you and your family!