My Family

On 3/20/2008 jane8227 wrote:

my name is jane brown.i am going throw a really bad time a year ago i lost my nan and now im losing my mum it really hurt my mum is only 47 years old and i cant beleave that in a coulpe of months my mum will not be around much longer and then i will have no famliy around so i have to go thought it on my own it hard for me i also have young child and they always ask why im crying  

Hi Jane,  I'm sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. Could you tell us a little more about your mom's diagnosis? 

Hi Jane,

I am so sorry for what you are going through.  I am fairly new here but I have found a tremendous amount of support from this site.  There is always someone here to relate to or talk to if you need it.  My prayers are with you and your mum.   

Dear Jane,

 I understand the pain that you are feeling. I lost my mother July 2007 to lung cancer. It was so horrible watching what this disease did to her. I think the worst part was knowing mom wouldn't survive her cancer. So we knew what was coming just not when. My mom was 63 when she passed. I was a late comer so I am only 26 but when mom passed my two boys were 6&3 so it was very difficult trying to keep myself going so that I could take care of them. I spoke with my son's doctor about how to deal with death. His best advice is to be honest. You don't have to give all the nasty details but tell your children that your mum is very sick. I don't know how old your child is but I think children at any age are smarter then we give them credit for. I know my youngest didn't even cry when grandma died. And it was a couple of weeks after when my oldest had his little break down. Now here we are almost 9months later and the boys are doing fine. (They always were) Also I found that my two were little cuddle bunnies when I needed someone. So just be honest with your children. Take care

well over the last couple of years my mum has not been well so a week after christmas i took my mum to hospital a she was so ill they did an x-ray an they found cancer in her left lung so they keeped her in hospital and two weeks later they did a c.t scan and they found cancer everywhere and then they told us that she only had four to six months it so hard. my mum was so happy when she found out i was pregnant she said she had some think to fight for. but four weeks ago me and my mum went to my scan and i found out my baby died my mum was heart broken and now she given up i love my mum very much.

but i spoke to my mum yesterday and she said she wants to be with her mum.my nan died fom the same thing a year ago so it really hard as i have noone to talk to about it

I know what your family has been through.  I am 20 years old, this is my first time on this site, I was actually going through a rough time myself, and was looking for some support.  

My mom passed away Nov. 17, 2007 from lung cancer.  Since May of 2007, she has severe back pain.  We were in and out of the doctors for months, testing for stroke, nerve damage, slipped discs, "stress-related" pains, physical therapy...the list goes on...

She had MRIs and CAT scans throughout the months.... but nobody could see her 6.5 inch tumor... In September she was diagnosed, finally, we found out that it already had spread to her spinal chord (hence the back pain) and her her hips, her bones, and possibly her lymph nodes.  So basically, for months we were massaging the tumor in physical therapy.  

My mom had been keeping positive throughout her chemo and radiation...my older brother and sister were both married earlier in the year, and my sister was pregnant. My mom too, said that that was something to strive to survive for.... to see her first grandchild, my graduation from college, and my little brother's graduation from high school.

My sister lost her baby on November 7th.  My mom was so upset, heartbroken.  She would cry for them ..and i watched, thinking...with my sister, both thinking...why are you even more heartbroken for baby Aryn when you are sick too?

Even though all her sessions previously went great at chemo and radiation, she got really tired and really sick.  She was rushed to the hospital and passed away 5 days later from pneumonia.

It has been hard, especially for my sister.  She says, "How can someone take away your baby and your mom in a span of ten days?"  ...I don't know how to respond.  

All i can say, to you, and to my sister, is that there are reasons for everything.  My mom, i know, is up there with her mom and dad, taking care of baby Aryn and looking out for all of us down here on Earth.  

Know that you are not alone, and I will pray for your family tonight.