Hi,
I am so sorry to hear about your boyfriend. My husband was diagnosed last July and I learned a lot about bladder cancer. Did you go to the doctor with him or are you getting the diagnosis second-hand? I'll be happy to send you information about what I learned. I used the last 8 months to collect a small library of online research studies and web sites.
emedicine is an excellent site.
Any cancer diagnosis is a fright. If you feel freaked out, you are absolutely normal.