But whether that's good or bad isn't yet clear
by stephanie68 on Wed Apr 02, 2008 12:00 AM
by Rchhh on Thu Apr 03, 2008 12:00 AM
On 4/2/2008 stephanie-68 wrote:My mother lossed her battle with cancer on 9/25/2007 I miss her so much and i try to remember all of the good times that we shared but all i can think about is how much pain she was in and how she suffered. how helpless she became and i don't want to think about her that way but that is all i seem to remember. I think i am losing my mind. Maybe i am just really missing her. to all who are going through this you and your family are in my heart and prayers.
I am really sorry for your loss. I pray that the Lord comforts you through this difficult time. If you need anyone to talk to, we are all here.
God Bless, Christy :)
by stlars55 on Thu Apr 03, 2008 12:00 AM
by stephanie68 on Fri Apr 04, 2008 12:00 AM
by golfgirl on Tue Apr 08, 2008 12:00 AM
by ANNIEBB on Tue Apr 08, 2008 12:00 AM
Reading these blogs just breaks my heart. My mom is battling cancer. As a family, none of us really talk about it much together. My sister lives in one town, I live in another, and my parents live in another. My dad, my sister, and me all have full time jobs. I feel really bad and guilty for not being able to go as much as I should. I had a friend to die from CF years ago, and i still feel grief and guilt about not being with him more. I'm not a person that opens up easily ( I can better w/ strangers). Any advice on how to deal & what to say to her, in case she doesn't win this battle?
by LostWithoutHer on Wed Apr 09, 2008 12:00 AM
To all of you here still missing your Mom.... My heart, hugs and prayers go out to you. I lost my Mom on 9.27.07. Thank heavens for this message forum and the ability to still pour out our feelings in the wee hours of the morning, especially when the people around us are no longer as understanding about the depth of the hurt we still bear. I think it goes without saying, that we all want to be able to move forward, and heal. But in order to do this successfully, we need to be true to our own healing timelines. I personally have been ineffective in my abilities to explain this to those who feel I should be further along in this process. I know someday I will find compromise between my feelings of sadness and joy for life again…. I have to; I promised my Mom that I would. I just don’t think it is going to be today and I really can’t say when….. I’m pretty sure though, that all of our Moms know and understands this, just as they always have….
I wish you all the strength you can muster to get you through the days and nights ahead…. and thanks to all of you for lending a compassionate ear in the dark sleepless nights, you have helped me more than you will ever know.
by mmsurvivor on Wed Apr 09, 2008 12:00 AM
Annie and to all I am sorry you are suffering so much. Time does help but you never forget. Annie instead of being fearful sit down and talk to you mother openly, she will either thank you or try to say everything is ok. Even if she does tell her "Mom I am sorry you are suffering, what can I do to make it easier" Unless people are in denial they are begging for someone to sit and talk to them normally without fear. Death is never easy. We all loose our parents sooner or later it is just the terrible way that cancer takes our loved ones early, and with a lot of suffering. Meditate, relax and do what you feel is right. Do not feel guilty as you can only do what you can do. Just tell your Mom you love her and think of some little things you can do. Send her a note each week giving encouragement. That will mean so much.....Take care all and God Bless...MMS
On 4/8/2008 ANNIEBB wrote:Reading these blogs just breaks my heart. My mom is battling cancer. As a family, none of us really talk about it much together. My sister lives in one town, I live in another, and my parents live in another. My dad, my sister, and me all have full time jobs. I feel really bad and guilty for not being able to go as much as I should. I had a friend to die from CF years ago, and i still feel grief and guilt about not being with him more. I'm not a person that opens up easily ( I can better w/ strangers). Any advice on how to deal & what to say to her, in case she doesn't win this battle? AnnBainbridge, GA
by kmbutl on Wed Apr 09, 2008 12:00 AM
by MOMANDONY on Thu Aug 28, 2008 12:00 AM
my mom lost the battle 2weeks ago and i so feel the same way. my mom was home with hospice and private nurses. I still can not talk to any of our private nurses which were very nice and so helpful but when i think of them i can only remember my mom while she was sick. I tend to talk more to the people who knew my mom before the beast!. i miss her so much it's a hurt so deep and one one understands. I walk around like i'm in a my own world which no one knows what i have been through for 2 1/2 years with my mom.
I'm sorry about your mom but i'm glad we have somwhere where we can come vent and people will understand.
Daughter the the best mom ever!!!
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