It Went Way Too Fast

My Dad's fight with esophageal cancer is over.  He was diagnosed in December and was told it was incurable in January.  They gave him 6-8 months at that time.  He lived a little over 3 months and passed away March 27.

It's still not real to me....

I am so sorry for your suffering, I know you feel you were cheated by not getting those extra months, but thank God he isn't suffering anymore. 

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Gerri

Wow, I can't imagine how you are feeling and everything you have been and are going through. My father is still fighting but was also told he had six months in Dec. There is nothing I can say to you to comfort you but I do want you to know that my heart breaks for you and you will be in my thoughts

catherine

On 4/8/2008 Txgirl68 wrote:

My Dad's fight with esophageal cancer is over.  He was diagnosed in December and was told it was incurable in January.  They gave him 6-8 months at that time.  He lived a little over 3 months and passed away March 27.

It's still not real to me....

I am so very sorry to hear that you dad has passed.  That was a very short time between diagnosis and his passing - and I know that you must feel very cheated.

As someone else said, he is now out of pain and in peace.  It's always the ones left behind whos lives are turned upside down.  I lost my dad in 1993 to postate cancer, so I understand what it's like to lose your dad.

I am now a caregiver to my husband with stage IV EC with metastasis to the liver - I never thought in my wildest dreams that in our retirement years we would be going through this journey.

Gentle hugs,

Azzie

I am so very sorry to hear about your father passing away.  I know it is devastating.  My father was diagnosed March 6th - given a year to live - and passed away on March 28th, the day after his first chemo treatment.

It is okay to feel angry and cheated out of every missed day with your father.  I hope that for you it doesn't take too long until your focus shifts back to every day you did have with your dad.  What saved my sanity is believing that although God's grace was not the outcome I wanted, it was the right outcome for my father.  

I have to believe in my heart that he, along with your father, are in a better place - where they are no longer suffering from this cruel, heartless disease.

My prayers go out to you and your family during this unimaginably heartbreaking time.

Tracy 

Hi:  My son, Robbie, was also given only a few months to live.  Although he did surpass that time he was only 35 when this demon took him.  It has been 6 months since we lost him.  I also lost my Dad at a young age to a massive heart attack so I can understand how you feel cheated.  My Dad was only 48 when he passed away and then to lose my son at 35, I also feel that things are very unfair at times, but, I too realize that neither of them are suffering anymore - it is only us left here to mourn that suffer.  I have to believe in God's promise of an eternal life in order to get by each day.  I wish you all the best and please please remember to take care of yourself while you are grieving  -  it is so easy to forget about our own health while we remember what might have been.  Soon enough, the tears will turn to smiles at times as we remember some wonderful time with our loved one.  I am not going to say "time will heal" because I am not  really sure about that - I am sure that as time passes we will remember them with more smiles than tears.

Hugs to you and yours and please know that others share your grief.  My prayers will be with you and yours.

Lynn

On 4/9/2008 cmullen wrote:

Wow, I can't imagine how you are feeling and everything you have been and are going through. My father is still fighting but was also told he had six months in Dec. There is nothing I can say to you to comfort you but I do want you to know that my heart breaks for you and you will be in my thoughts

catherine

My father was just diagnosed 4 weeks ago with Stage 4 Esop. cancer mt to liver.  We will meet with the oncologist in two days after waiting 3 weeks.  I would really like to hear your experience with treatment and especially comfort care and eating.

It is non-operable and he is 75 years old.

Did you get a tube or stent.  He has not much of an appetitie and is losing weight fast.

Any info is helpful.

On 4/28/2008 baldwin wrote:

 

On 4/9/2008 cmullen wrote:

Wow, I can't imagine how you are feeling and everything you have been and are going through. My father is still fighting but was also told he had six months in Dec. There is nothing I can say to you to comfort you but I do want you to know that my heart breaks for you and you will be in my thoughts

catherine

 

My father was just diagnosed 4 weeks ago with Stage 4 Esop. cancer mt to liver.  We will meet with the oncologist in two days after waiting 3 weeks.  I would really like to hear your experience with treatment and especially comfort care and eating.

It is non-operable and he is 75 years old.

Did you get a tube or stent.  He has not much of an appetitie and is losing weight fast.

Any info is helpful.

 My husband started with a cough in Dec 07...went to MD in Jan, Feb and March before a chest xray was done....nodes in lungs and then a ct scan...mets in liver with primary EC (liver bx done). Started on chemo 1 week ago. My spouses cancer is inoperable due to mets to liver and lung. Stage 4. He is receiving EOX treatment (2 chemo IV and 1 by mouth daily) every 3 weeks. I pray everyday for response and shrinkage. Will let you know. How 3 weeks can change a life! 

I am so sorry about your dad's passing.  Although you are probably tired of hearing this, he is at peace.  My husband died of stomach cancer Februry 22, and I am lost without him.  He fought valiantly 'til the very end and there is such a void in my life.  I can only get through this grief knowing that some day we will be reunited for eternity, never to be separated again.  Until then....

God bless you and your family,

Diane