Husband Diagnosed Recently

My husband David was diagnosed with kidney cancer in december.

the kidney was removed and per urologist all cancer was removed with the

kidney. a recent follow up vist shows some abnormal cells in baldder for which he is receiving immunotherapy.This will be followed by biopsy, cat scan, urine and blood work and poss "preventative chemo.  My question is

how to cope from test to results to dr visit and then all over. David is doing

Ok and has a posative attitude and not really a worrier...I on the other hand

have no pateints and a lot of anxiety...how do you all get from one thing to another with out going crazy....I dont want to cry in front of David

Thanks for any suggedtions

Sandy

On 4/8/2008 WOLFLADY1020 wrote:

My husband David was diagnosed with kidney cancer in december.

the kidney was removed and per urologist all cancer was removed with the

kidney. a recent follow up vist shows some abnormal cells in baldder for which he is receiving immunotherapy.This will be followed by biopsy, cat scan, urine and blood work and poss "preventative chemo.  My question is

how to cope from test to results to dr visit and then all over. David is doing

Ok and has a posative attitude and not really a worrier...I on the other hand

have no pateints and a lot of anxiety...how do you all get from one thing to another with out going crazy....I dont want to cry in front of David

Thanks for any suggedtions

Sandy

Hi! Sandy, i don't know where the other thing is. All I know is to deal with whatever the day brings. My strength comes from knowing my God is still in control over everything in my life.I started this road over 11 yrs ago when i was dx with kidney cancer. It was removed and for 10 yrs I thought I was cured. Then almost 1yr ago I learned it hsd returned to the lymphnodes of my lungs & bone of left shoulder. So I battle this beast with whatever will work. When all is said and done I want to say I gave it my all.I have seen God move in so many lives because of my illness.So I have surrendered my will to his will. I know he is able to heal, if he does ok, if he doesn't thats ok too. I hope you can find your strength to go down this road with your husband. Take Care   john 

PS  If you ever need to talk to someone I would be glad to listen anytime!

On 4/8/2008 WOLFLADY1020 wrote:

My husband David was diagnosed with kidney cancer in december.

the kidney was removed and per urologist all cancer was removed with the

kidney. a recent follow up vist shows some abnormal cells in baldder for which he is receiving immunotherapy.This will be followed by biopsy, cat scan, urine and blood work and poss "preventative chemo.  My question is

how to cope from test to results to dr visit and then all over. David is doing

Ok and has a posative attitude and not really a worrier...I on the other hand

have no pateints and a lot of anxiety...how do you all get from one thing to another with out going crazy....I dont want to cry in front of David

Thanks for any suggedtions

Sandy

 

Sandy,

Take from me....cry in front of David. He will not think any less of you and it will help you to come to grips with it. I have kicked cancer's butt twice in the last year and my wife still lets a tear or two go now and then. It just makes me more determined to win and it let's me know that she still likes me, HAHAHAHAHAHA. I have found that it is all in the attitude. She has now taken my outlook on it. It's only cancer, a little inconvenient at times but no big deal. The worst thing to do is for you to try and keep it in. Eventually you will get "angry" with the cancer and if you hold it in.....you could possibly become angry with David. If you do that, we might have to poke you with a sharp stick or something.

There are HUNDREDS of us here for you and David.....we are just an email away.

Take care and laugh.......believe me, as a 2 time survivor, it helps.

Mark