Jill,
Wow!!! You asked a question which I asked myself a thousand times when my father was still around and I knew that one day I will have to make that decision.
First surgery was good-A few days later no one would have said that he had a craniotomy-and I think this is the norm. The doctors will tell you that when GBM returns, it will be a worse and more aggressive tumor than the firat time around. Also, if the first line of defense did not work, temodar and radiation( which is their best shot at GBM) then what next???
We never got around to a second surgery-my da d passed away 4 months ago very fast, we didnt even know what hit us. I think that I lost mu real father after the surgery and radiation. As you all may agree, our loved one are just not the same people as they were before.
Another surgery? Not for us. I would have said no. Would a 2nd or 3rd surgery change the course of the disease? Will a second surgery cause deficits-I think that it will- I would have tried Avastin and the Cyber Knife, but not surgery.
I am sorry , but for the little time we have our loved ones around with GBM I want them as whole as possible and not not knowing who their child or granchild are. We have to accept the inevitable and be ready to let them go when it is time. Whatever decision you make, make it for the patient and not for yourself. Best luck to you.
Joe