feeling guilty and confused

Wow....your post seems to have sparked quite a bit of conversation and opinions. I figure, why not add my own!

 I personally made the decision to leave my very well paying job to move home and take care of my mom. I am now working part time for minimum wage. The lifestyle I was living before all this happened is a thing of the past. I've been living with my mom for 9 months now and while I miss the big paycheck and the freedom I had before all this happened, I'm more thankful to have been given this extra time with my mom. Had I chosen my job and "paycheck" over my mom I think I would have been full of regret in the long run.

I have to wonder what is your husbands stand on all this? From my own personal experience, my brothers have continued on with their lives the same as before. I just feel that men have different ways of handling this kind of emotional stress and I can't help but wonder if his accepting a job so far away is just an easy out. Now I know there are some very exceptional men, both caregivers and patients, on this site....I'm only speaking of the experience I've had with the men in my life. It sounds like he really needs to do some soul searching and make a decision of how involved he wants to be with his mother. The answer may surprise you, but maybe that is the real answer you are searching for.

 Best of luck to you and your family....

-h-

p.s. I think Ken is just the voice of reason...I don't think he was trying to hurt anyone's feelings. Sometimes we need someone to say what we don't expect anyone else to and I think in this case, that was him.

Hi again everyone... My message has brought up sooo much controversy!So thank you all for you suggestions, but we have decided...my mother in law finishes her first round of treatment on Wednesday, she gets her results on May 2nd. My husband has told the job offer that they will need to wait until then for his decision. If his mom isn't doing well and her results aren't positive then we're staying here in PA. If his mom is doing well, we will go, with her blessing of course(which she's already given) and try the job out 6 months. If these 6 months work out, we will be bringing his mom and dad out to live with us in Colorado. It will work out for everyone including his mom who is actually delighted at the thought of living with us. And since I stay at home with the kids already, even if I have to take care of her full time, it will be possible. Thank you all for your prayers and concern...I sure do appreciate it. God bless you all~

I hope that you realize that 6 months for a GBM patient is not the same as 6 months to you and I without GBM. For most of the GBM patients 6 months is half of their prognosis.