Lost My Dad...

After 20 months from the time he was first diagnosed with stage 4 sclc my father passed away last week. I am lost and so so so sad.

For 17 out of those 20 months he did well. No pain, no symptoms...he seemed ok. But the last 3 months were bad, he was hit with everything at once.

 I miss him and I will miss him always. My heart is broken. This all still seems like a dream, it does not feel real.

I do want to say: keep hoping and fighting this disease. God Bless all those touched by cancer.

On 4/20/2008 Ne_ne_125 wrote:

After 20 months from the time he was first diagnosed with stage 4 sclc my father passed away last week. I am lost and so so so sad.

For 17 out of those 20 months he did well. No pain, no symptoms...he seemed ok. But the last 3 months were bad, he was hit with everything at once.

 I miss him and I will miss him always. My heart is broken. This all still seems like a dream, it does not feel real.

I do want to say: keep hoping and fighting this disease. God Bless all those touched by cancer.

  

So many of us share in your sorrow.  I am so sorry that you lost your Father.  Eight months have passed since I lost my beautiful Mom to this horrible disease (stage IV sclc) and still I don't understand why she had to die this way?  

There are so many wonderful organizations out there that are trying to help save lives and help with the suffering.  I'm trying now to redirect my anger and efforts towards helping to fight against this disease.  We need standardized early detection programs, more research, less prejudice about lung cancer and more funding!  This is not just a smokers disease and is killing far too many people.  All cancer patients deserve a fighting chance, regardless of what type of cancer they have and what stage they are in.  Each patient is someone special and loved dearly by their families and none of us can fathom being without them....

So please, we should all advocate for better cancer care while we are able to. The next life you save may be your own.  

Wishing you all one of those "good days" where the joy of the day is much bigger than the sorrow.

LostWithoutHer in California

Ne Ne

My heart breaks for you. It is a very difficult time in your life, no doubt. I cannot say anything that will change how you feel, except that you need to feel. It is so important to go with whatever feeling hits you and don't second guess it.

I lost my Mom on my 37th birthday, November 1, 2008. I still have days and momments when I am consumed with greif and i cannot understand why this happened. I know the cause, 2 packs a day for 45 years, but why is she gone? And after all the questions, I am still left with this loss that I cannot explain.

I am amazed at how many of us are going through this or have been through this. May God Bless you and keep you and your family near.