I have been dealing with Stage IV cervical cancer (adenocarcinoma) since December 2002. Very briefly, I thought I was in remission, but a subsequent scan showed metastases to the lungs. I've had surgery and 6 more months of chemotherapy. My tumors continue to grow in number and size. Right now, I'm getting high dose IV vitamin C and taking numerous oral supplements, and I'm scheduled for another CT next week.
BUT, in spite of it all, I am currently living a great life. I've had lots of time to think about not surviving this cancer and to feel hopeless. It only takes time and energy away from what I have right now. Be here now and savor this time. Who knows, it may go on for a long long time. Savor it anyway. I know this is easier to say than to do, and certainly I have days where I still cry a lot.
So, don't let go of hope -- just be more open to what you hope for. Hope for joy and peace and wonderful times together. Hope that your friend isn't in pain and can enjoy her life. Hope for strength to accompany her on this long journey.
Bless you both. Christy