My Father Has Passed

good evening to all. i just wanted to update that my dear father passed away. after an almost 10 month battle he is now cancer free and at peace. my hero in life, is now also my guardian angel.

on march 10th we got some good news and i posted that. but on april 14th our world turned upside down and my dad took a turn for the worse and spent the last 24 days in the hospital.

i am thankful that he was pain free and happy throughout his last days. he passed with his family surrounding him with support and love.

i cannot thank all of you enough for all of the support, info & prayers. this is such a tough journey. keep your faith. keep your hope alive and well. and never, never give up! my dad went out fighting with all his might. cancer is the enemy and can be beaten. all my best to all of you. my prayers will continue on for all on this board who are fighting this disease for themselves or a loved one. peace, kris

Kris, I am so sorry to hear of your father's passing.  I have been reading your posts and know that there was much love in your family.  This is such a hard time - you are relieved your dad is at peace, yet there is a void that can't be filled.  This monster cancer took my wonderful husband at 61 years of age on February 22 of this year.  I still can't believe he is gone and desperately miss him.  He also fought like a warrior 'til the very end but it was not to be.  Be consoled in the fact that we will all be reunited eternally, until then....

God bless you and your family,

Diane

Dearest Kris,

Your father was so lucky to have you in his life. You are a brave soldier and even though you will miss him greatly, you can now get on with your life. I know you have to put yours on hold for a while when dealing with this beast. Thank you for putting yours on hold to help your Dad, he appreciated it. Thanks also for being an inspiration to the others of us who continue to do battle, your words gave much encouragement to many. I hope time will replace the memories of cancer with all the memories of a great life lived and the many happy times you had with your father. It just seems to be how the grieving/mourning process works. Be good to yourself, you deserve it.

Thanks again for all you have done. You are an inspiration Kris. In my thoughts and prayers........    Scott

On 5/6/2008 Anniedips wrote:

Kris, I am so sorry to hear of your father's passing.  I have been reading your posts and know that there was much love in your family.  This is such a hard time - you are relieved your dad is at peace, yet there is a void that can't be filled.  This monster cancer took my wonderful husband at 61 years of age on February 22 of this year.  I still can't believe he is gone and desperately miss him.  He also fought like a warrior 'til the very end but it was not to be.  Be consoled in the fact that we will all be reunited eternally, until then....

God bless you and your family,

Diane

diane, thank you so much for the kind words. the void is huge right now. but i am at such peace i cannot tell you. it is exactly 24hrs since his death and i feel strong. my dad would have wanted me to be this way. i have to get back to work and to being a wife and to being a mom to a beautiful daughter who has special needs and will never know 1st hand how much her grandpa loved her. but i will keep his memory alive and vibrant through all our days. and i have to help my dear mother through this process. we will conquer all that is in front of us and the void will diminish and be replaced with the happiest of thoughts and memories of my hero in life who is now also my guardian angel. many thanks and wishes of continued strength for your family as well as mine. kris

On 5/6/2008 Eliot1 wrote:

Dearest Kris,

Your father was so lucky to have you in his life. You are a brave soldier and even though you will miss him greatly, you can now get on with your life. I know you have to put yours on hold for a while when dealing with this beast. Thank you for putting yours on hold to help your Dad, he appreciated it. Thanks also for being an inspiration to the others of us who continue to do battle, your words gave much encouragement to many. I hope time will replace the memories of cancer with all the memories of a great life lived and the many happy times you had with your father. It just seems to be how the grieving/mourning process works. Be good to yourself, you deserve it.

Thanks again for all you have done. You are an inspiration Kris. In my thoughts and prayers........    Scott

scott, i have so many words for you...but they can all be summed up in one sentence. you are a great human being.

during my darkest days of this journey i would come to this board and look for your posts. they gave me the boost i needed to go on and continue this fight with and sometimes for my dad. i did give up every aspect of my life to be there day in and day out with my dear father. my thought always was...i can work, socialize, be a mom & wife anytime. but what mattered most was being a daughter to my dad. being his caregiver was the most rewarding thing for me. i will cherish every second.

keep posting good news. it is what makes many know to never give up. i never gave up hope til my father had his last breath. even when all looked hopeless....my dad and i would hold hands and say to each other "forever". we kept each other strong and happy and pain free..."forever"

all my best to you and rick. always know i will be smiling when reading your posts. peace & continued healing, kris

Kris,

I have been following your story, and we have even talked through Private Messages and I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear this news. I really was hoping for him to make an example out of this horrible disease. Please send me a private message if you need to talk. I am so very sorry. Our fathers are finally at peace. It's been 7 months since my father died from Stomach Cancer, and although it still hurts, I can promise you that with each day, you will feel more peace.

 Many Hugs,

Kristen

Hello Kris.  I too have followed your additions to this message board and want to thank you for all your valuable input.  I am sure you have helped give some people strength and encouragement with your words.

I also want to say how sorry I am for your loss.  I am finding anyone who battles cancer of any kind to the end, is a warrior.  Where they find the courage is amazing and I suspect it comes from the love they feel around them.  Your father was obviously loved.

Please take care and know you are still not alone.

Shannon 

Oh Kris, I am so sorry to hear of your dad's passing.  I must say that I just read your message at this moment and I am just beside myself....whenever we would talk about our dads it always seemed that both were doing really well and then I read this.......it felt like I lost my father when I read this......

 As I take a deep breath and try ot collect myself, I want to say that my deepest condolescences to you and your family and that I can truly feel your loss.... 

Kris, you have been such a great support to me through this ordeal with my dad and I just can't thank you enough for all of your support and kindness in reaching out to me.  I must confess that I'm scared with what lies ahead for my dad.  I understand the viciousness of this disease all too well and I only pray that your dad did not have to suffer......or that my dad will not suffer either......my thoughts are with you.

Kris......PLEASE keep in touch and let me know how you are doing and I am ALWAYS HERE FOR YOU!!!!!  God bless you.  Lila.

Kris,

  I (unfortunately) didn't know you during your Father's fight with this cruel disease but I can feel your pain! My Father was diagnosed with a 17 pound Sarcoma tumor a little over 2 years ago.  Since the removal, the cancer has spread to his lungs. He has been so strong and brave even though he hasn't received a single bit of good news since his fight started! My heart aches for you! It is so hard to watch your Dad go through this type of ordeal! Like you, my Daddy is and always has been my hero! But it seems like you have made some wonderful, supportive friends on this board! I hope to do the same! I have only connected with one person so far but on the dark days, I find comfort in just reading other peoples posts! My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time! God bless you!

Julie

On 5/6/2008 Kristennyc wrote:

Kris,

I have been following your story, and we have even talked through Private Messages and I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear this news. I really was hoping for him to make an example out of this horrible disease. Please send me a private message if you need to talk. I am so very sorry. Our fathers are finally at peace. It's been 7 months since my father died from Stomach Cancer, and although it still hurts, I can promise you that with each day, you will feel more peace.

 Many Hugs,

Kristen

kristen,

thanks for the words of kindness. and thanks for all the info that you shared with me. i also set up a carepage for my father after you gave the info. it was so wonderful to be able to post info and have so many people have the chance to feel like they were right there with us through our journey. the support we got from it was beyond anything i could have dreamed. my dads name is KenLaRoe on the carepage if you are interested in viewing it. i was on your dads carepage many times in the last few weeks. it helped me to prepare for whatever was to happen.

i too wished he could have overcome the cancer. but it was not to be. i am happy that he is at peace and cancer free. i miss him so much, but i know that he is watching over me and my whole family and we will one day be together again.

i wish you continued healing and many blessings to you and your family. thank you for always keeping an eye out fo me. it was and is appreciated. (((HUGS))) to you also, kris