My Father Has Cancer

Hello everybody. I have been searching online for some place where i can find experience and encouragement for this sometimes i don't feel like sharing with my family becaue i have to be the strong one even if i'm the baby in the family.

My father has Stage 3 advance stomach cancer they removed 15 cancer tumors but there is more that they couldn't remove he will start treatment in 3 weeks he has respond very well to the operation (he is 71) but the hardest part hasn't come yet.We have no tell him how his treatment will be becasue he gets so nervous and we need him to be relax so it can help him.

our issue right now is that he is a permanent resident for 4 years and he needs 1 more year to qualify for help with the treatment and we dont know where to go. He doesnt have insurance and we don't know where to look for help. The hospital right now is helping us but once he gets out they won't be available to help. What it gets me angry is that the public service lady told us because he came in with his SSN and he is a legal alien they couldn't help him with free treatment .So because we are trying to do the right thing how we are  suppose to thinking we will getting more help we are being punish and people who has plenty money and LIE about their names and legal stats go to the hospital for a simple pain in the nail and they get free.I'm sorry i didnt mean to mix the issues here but it is really upseting.

Anyway since I got this out of my chest. I will keep updates about him and I will be glad to received any kind of support or help with this

Thanks

On 5/7/2008 Lourdes05 wrote:

Hello everybody. I have been searching online for some place where i can find experience and encouragement for this sometimes i don't feel like sharing with my family becaue i have to be the strong one even if i'm the baby in the family.

My father has Stage 3 advance stomach cancer they removed 15 cancer tumors but there is more that they couldn't remove he will start treatment in 3 weeks he has respond very well to the operation (he is 71) but the hardest part hasn't come yet.We have no tell him how his treatment will be becasue he gets so nervous and we need him to be relax so it can help him.

our issue right now is that he is a permanent resident for 4 years and he needs 1 more year to qualify for help with the treatment and we dont know where to go. He doesnt have insurance and we don't know where to look for help. The hospital right now is helping us but once he gets out they won't be available to help. What it gets me angry is that the public service lady told us because he came in with his SSN and he is a legal alien they couldn't help him with free treatment .So because we are trying to do the right thing how we are  suppose to thinking we will getting more help we are being punish and people who has plenty money and LIE about their names and legal stats go to the hospital for a simple pain in the nail and they get free.I'm sorry i didnt mean to mix the issues here but it is really upseting.

Anyway since I got this out of my chest. I will keep updates about him and I will be glad to received any kind of support or help with this

Thanks

I understand exactly how you feel.  I am a United States Citizen.  I had a 15 year old child that was also a United States Citizen with cancer.  We didn't have any health insurance.  We were denied cared for him.  I spent many a day in the HRS and DCF offices filling out paper work only to be told we made too much money and we owned our home.  We were a family of 4 making $37,000 a year.  We hardly were living a life free from monetary worries.  I was the only white person in the office.  Had we floated up on a raft or been of a different race we would have received flatbeds full of products and services.  We sold the cars, boats and jewelry to afford the care for our son.  I know exactly what you mean about the 'OTHERS' coming in with brand new cars and their gold teeth and their babies draped in gold and getting anything and everything they asked for including money.  I live in one of the richest counties in Florida, and they didn't care at all about my child.  I called my Congressmen and Senators and it finally came down to the doctors that said give them help or we will no longer help you.  I was never a prejudice person until that horrible ordeal of trying to find help for my child and save his life.  I know how you feel and my heart goes out to you and your family.  I wish you the best of everything.  By being an alien, he stands a better chance of recieving help from the United States than if he were a Citizen that had been born on this soil.  Good Luck.  I hope you have a happy ending.  I am thinking of you.