Sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. I have bile duct cancer, was diagnosed Feb 2007, had "Surgery" April 2007. As for the Whipple Procedure.....the surgeons opened me up & closed me right back up again. The cancer had already spread to my liver & pancreas. The cancer was left inside of me. Had 9 months of chemo. Since Jan 2008 have had no treatments. Since the beginning I have been on pancreatic enzyme capsules to help in my digestion. Throughout the past year have had bouts of sepsis (blood poisoning), blockages of infection & food particles like fruit & vegetable skins in the stent put into my main bile duct, pancreatitis when the tumor has blocked my pancreas duct. At the present time (after one month of clear liquid diet only) I am able to eat chicken, fish & turkey; nothing fried or greasy; must be low fat.
I have learned to live one day at a time. I was not supposed to live past Christmas 2007. Feeling pretty good except very low energy & strength. My family & friends have all been loving, helpful & praying for me. The doctors are all amazed at how well I am doing. Believe me I do not take any day for granted knowing that it may be my last. Every time I get sick, there is no warning. I could be feeling fine one hour & the next I would be on the floor with pain off the scale charts!
I have made my peace with God and have apologized to Him for not trusting that He is able to take care of my family better & in more ways than I ever could. I am thankful for the family I have been blessed with, but have reconciled to the fact that I cannot provide all their needs as much as I love them & they love me. We have made all the necessary planning & arrangements for when I do die. Do not want to leave everything a surprise for my family or a burden. We love each other more than ever before. Hugging has become a standard hello & goodbye with everyone that I know. I have no time for anger or grudges with anyone. Just want everyone to know I love them & appreciate what ever part they play in my life!
It is true that when the symptoms of bile duct cancer first appear, the cancer has been in your body for about 2 years. That is why there is such a high mortality rate. Since your husband was able to have the Whipple Procedure, he has a much better life expentancy than I do. His about 4 years after diagnosis. The sooner he & his family can accept the reality of this horrible cancer, the better his quality of life will be. Ignoring or hoping for the impossible will only delay the beauty of the love you all can experience with one another's fellowship.